If you’re not a blogger, there will be ways for you to join in the fun too and help share #HopeforHeidi too. I understand not everyone is on Facebook or has a blog so I came up with a way for most everyone to participate. A family tradition we all enjoy and one I know you favor too, since blogs with photographic memories of our family have the some of the highest number of views.
Are you wondering how any of this has anything to do with the “Birthday Bash” next month? I hope so. If you have a copy of #WheresHeidi?, #WhenWavesSubside, or #EnourageOthers then you are ready to capture an entry. By capture I mean, take a picture to be entered for a chance to win a FREE book. Now to learn what you need to take a picture of and how to enter.
To enter for a chance to win a FREE book written by #LisaMBuske:
1) Take a picture of any of my books: Be creative and use your imagination. Have fun, in essence – you are doing a
photo shoot with a book.
2) If you are on Facebook:
a. Post the picture to either of my two pages “One Sister’s Journey” or “Where’s Heidi?”
b. Tag me (Lisa M Buske, Where’s Heidi?, One Sister’s Journey) in actual picture to be sure I receive it
c. Include at Hashtag for the book you are posting a picture of in the comment section:
i. #WheresHeidi? - One Sister’s Journey
ii. #WhenWavesSubside – There is Hope
iii. #EncourageOthers – One Day at a Time
d. Post a comment about any of the following or switch it up with each new entry throughout the month
i. Favorite part of the book
ii. How the book impacted your life
iii. Tag a friend you think would benefit from reading this book
iv. Something you learned
v. Something you wonder
vi. ?? Be creative
3) If you avoid Social Media at all costs:
a. You can email your picture: email@example.com
b. You can mail me a picture and I’ll scan and upload it to Facebook for you (If you don’t want me to use your name on the social media, please put this in writing): P.O. Box 261, New Haven, New York 13121
There will be TWO rounds of judging!
1st Round: Heidi’s parents will look at all the submitted photos and pick their top 3
2nd Round: YOU!! On September 29th, I’ll post my parent’s top three choices with
an online ballet for you to cast your votes.
The winner will be announced on September 30th !
What does the winner win?
1 – Your photo will be used on the blog twice – September 29th and 30th
2 – Your photo will be the main photo on September 30th
3 – Your winning photo will be shared on all three of my Facebook pages
4 – You win a FREE book of your choice (I have 3 – you pick the one you want)
Submissions start at 12:00 a.m., September 1st, 2013.
Disclaimer: By submitting a photographic entry you give me, Lisa M Buske
(One Sister’s Journey) permission to use your photograph on my blog,
on social media, or for other book related promotions.
Do you plan on entering a photograph for a chance to win a book?
Our pastor, and then our guest pastor this past Sunday, both mentioned fear in their messages. I'm noticing a theme in the messages on Sunday morning, and in the verses I've read during my quiet time. With God, there are no coincidences, so I'm taking a deeper look into myself...what am I afraid of?
I can think of a few things that increase my heart rate, some out of anticipation and others due to anxiety. Am I not trusting these situations and things to God? Probably not if I'm experiencing fear. Someone once told me that fear is a sin and a sign we aren't trusting God. Ouch! Right? With this in mind, I'm going to focus some attention to why these verses and conversations on fear are interrupting my thought processes and days, and if a lack of trust is at the root of the problem then I'm diving into the Word to restore the necessary hope, assurance, encouragement, and strength necessary to trust God in ALL things.
"So don’t be afraid. I am here, with you;
don’t be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you, help you.
I am here with My right hand to make right and to hold you."
Isaiah 41:10 VOICE
What are you afraid of ?
To "like" the Heidi Search Center's Facebook page and receive updates: click on the photo of the balloons to the left.
For more information about the HSC or the "Hope Initiative Campaign": Click on the photos of Heidi Seeman and Erica Marie Botello above.
To make a monetary donation to this campaign: click on the "Donate please" photo below or visit their website for a direct link.
To say a prayer for the missing, their families, this center, and others similar to them: pause and lift a prayer right where you are. Prayer is powerful and you never know when your prayer is the one God answers to bring a missing child home or prevent a child from being kidnapped.
I hope you will help support their cause.
There are links to their website to make a donation
and learn more about the HSC in Texas.
To partner with an organization dedicated to educating and saving our children is a worthy cause. The fact they sent someone to help organize the search for my sister, our Heidi, Heidi M. Allen ~ the icing on the cake of a great initiative. Thank you in advance!
Please share this with your friends, family, businesses, employers, and your connections via social media. You never know...
Today’s blog is our attempt to answer the question my parents were asked this week. “Why is there a new age progression of Heidi when someone is convicted for her kidnapping and presumption of death?”
My parents were stunned by this question, and from a good friend too. To be honest, we never thought about this concept. For the family of the missing, there are certain protocols (if you will) that you follow at different points in the case, and the length of time your loved one is missing. Regardless of a court conviction or not, an age progression is the step we are at.
Most are familiar with the use of age progression to identify living missing persons yet there is another valuable use of this drawing. Age progressions, like the one Diana Trepkov (click on Heidi’s photo above for a direct link to Diana’s site or http://www.forensicsbydiana.com/index.htm) created, are used to match unidentified bodies (deceased) to missing persons. Diana is a certified forensic artist, her drawings include DNA points (I think this is what their called) to help forensic scientists and law enforcement match discovered remains/bodies to the thousands of missing persons across the country.
Heidi M Allen, kidnapped on Easter Sunday, April 3, 1994, while working alone at the D & W Convenience store in New Haven, New York, remains missing today. Two men were arrested with one acquitted and the other serving a twenty five to life sentence for her kidnapping. This conviction is based on the “presumption of death”. Some ask, “Why an updated age progression if there is a conviction?” The answer is simple to understand when you are the family searching for a missing loved one yet we understand it creates confusion when you aren’t living each day in the unknown.
Although there is a presumption of death, this isn’t a confirmed, 100%, proof of death. This means there is a percentage, an ever so small one, that Heidi may be alive somewhere in New York or across the country. With all investigations, there is a process. Part of this process when your loved one is missing and their disappearance transitions to a cold case is to have an age progression photo done. This increases the likelihood, if your loved one defeats the odds and is alive somewhere, they still have a hope and chance for recovery.
Families of the missing understand this percentage is so small, especially when there are convictions for their loved one’s disappearance. The updated age progression is one way the family keeps their missing family member in the media spotlight, the community’s memory, and ensures every possible avenue has been taken to bring their loved one home. We accept and trust the Oswego County Sheriff Department and DA yet we need to do everything we can, as Heidi’s family, to cover all basis. This age progression is a step in the process every family of the missing does when their loved one becomes a “cold case”.
We are not disagreeing with the Sheriff’s Department, or the District Attorney, we are simply doing what is next to ensure we’ve done everything we can to bring Heidi home.
From the Oswego County Sheriff’s Website: http://www.co.oswego.ny.us/sheriff/allen.html
“At the time of her disappearance, Heidi was described as a white female, 5’11”, 145 pounds, light brown/blond hair worn long and curly, and blue eyes. She was last seen wearing a gray sweatshirt with a plaid SU logo on the front, and white
sneakers. She wore glasses or contact lenses and had pierced ears. Her date of birth was September 14, 1975.
Anyone who may have been in the area of the convenience store at or around the time of her abduction, or anyone who has any information on the case is asked to contact the Oswego County Sheriff’s Office by e-mail, or by phone at one of the following numbers: 1-888-349-3411, 1-800-724-8477 or 315-349-3411”
When a loved one goes missing ~ we never give up hope!
A fact many of you may not know, unless you read my book, Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey, is this -- I was NOT the woman most saw outside the house. It was only because of my husband, Ed, and my parents that I functioned and made it through each day. At the time there was no God in our home or family - we blamed Him for taking Heidi. If you've ever tried to do anything on your own, without God's strength and help, you know it's only a matter of time. I'm grateful for Ed's support, he bore it all for me. I knew my parents experienced their greatest loss, the loss of a child, and worse yet - this child is missing. After ten years I released Ed of the burden and gave it all to God. A great decision, if you want the whole story, you'll have to get your copy of Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey from Amazon.com.
So with no stories to tell, I'll share a few pics of Ed and I through the years. I'm not sure who the young and skinny couple is but I know they are the same two people who fell in love twenty years ago. The only difference, we have ample life experiences uniting and bonding us together for life. We look forward to each day here on earth and our time together in eternity.
Happy Anniversary Ed!
I'm still writing. I've spoke a few times to different groups, and now I'm scheduling into October and November. Praise God, my weekends in September are full with the exception of our "Family Weekend", so they are all booked. God, then family, and then sharing hope through my writing and speaking.
As a wife, mother, daughter, friend, relative, and daughter to the King -- I wear many different hats. In addition to these six, there are hats for teacher, speaker, author, mentor, mentee, walker, cleaner, youth leader, secretary, and probably others I'm drawing a blank on at the moment.
The One Hat I am called to wear is the one displaying my faith. To wear this hat with integrity, honesty, and proudly helps to fuse all the other hats into one. I may be all those things but in the end, it's only the wreath representing my faith that will matter and keeps the multitude of other hats I wear securely fitted to my life.
I've missed my sister a lot this week, not sure why. TOP's Tuesday started to keep you up to date with upcoming events and the publishing of Where's Heidi?. So here is a little news and dates for your calendars.
Mondays through the end of September
New Haven Town Farmer's Market
Route 104, New Haven, New York
4 p.m. - 7 p.m.
Saturday October 26th 11 a.m.
Lowville Public Library
Lowville, New York
To schedule an event
"Every athlete exercises self-control in all things.
They do it to receive a perishable wreath,
but we an imperishable."
1 Corinthians 9:25 (ESV)
It's okay to wear a multitude of hats yet the one you
prioritize is vital to "who" you are ~ wear it proud!
I'll never forget the tears trickling down my mother-in-law's cheeks as she said "I'll see you again one day Bob." and released her balloon that first year. Her husband, best friend, and father to her children ~ who left us too soon. But then I think to lose a parent (or parent-in-law) is always too soon.
This year, we release a balloon in memory of my mother-in-law, Norine, too. An event she created to help us remember. An tribute to our heritage. One way to remember those who made us who we are today.
Her balloon won't travel solo. There will be balloons in memory of her two brothers that passed this year too. We, the family, will gather and celebrate our connections. Most connected through a blood line while yet ALL family! A great day ahead.
Do you take a moment to remember your family who have passed away at your family reunion and/or family gathering? If so, how?
What is your favorite aspect of the family reunion? Why?
"You've kept track of my every toss and turn
through the sleepless nights,
each tear entered in Your ledger,
each ache written in your book."
Psalm 56:8 MSG
After the loss of a loved one, each family member responds differently. Some bury themselves in their work, hobbies, or whatever their vice is to avoid the pain and loss. Then there are those that quit doing what they love because there doesn't seem to be a purpose. I know Ed and I took less vacations because I didn't want to leave in case Heidi called or was found.
Dad's puttering transitioned to tools collecting dust until a few years ago. In December 2010 I spoke for the first time at a community outreach event. It was fabulous on so many levels. I learned to focus my thoughts, pray more diligently, and trust 100% on Him. Since that first Thursday evening at the Believer's Chapel North, Mexico, New York -- I have shared with women's groups, Bible study groups, on Sunday mornings as a guest speaker, to teachers, and local organizations.
"Love is patient,
love is kind.
It does not envy,
it does not boast,
it is not proud.
It is not rude,
it is not self-seeking,
it is not easily angered,
it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil
but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects,
Love never fails."
1 Corinthians 13:4-8a, NIV
The best part about this is Dad is sharing his talent with others. He creates visuals for me when I speak and even some trinkets for people to take with them. Dad does the designing, building, staining, and applies the apoxy. (Spelling, lol) Mom designs and wood burns, or paints, in the details.
To write and speak is truly a family affair ~ all for the love and memory of Heidi and to share hope with others who might not realize there is hope after loss and tragedy.
Dad recently brought home this very cool wood, with red in the rings. I asked him what he planned to do with it. His response, "I don't know but it's pretty." Each time I visited him in the wood shop I looked at the wood and we brain stormed things he could build or ways to utilize the wood so the beauty within would be highlighted and useful. Our first thought, a foot stool. I put in my request and asked if he would make me a stool for Christmas this year. He said, "No, I don't think so."
Guess what? He is just sneaky - today, I brought home my stool. It's angled so I can rest my feet while balancing my laptop on my lap. He is so clever. No wonder he was measuring my legs and angle while sitting. Some might wonder, "Why didn't you ask?" One thing I've learned, and do myself, when we are asking peculiar questions - someone is "up to no good" to surprise you. I never thought it would be the stool yet I'm so glad it is. It's almost too pretty to put your feet on though! lol
THANK YOU DAD!!!!
"I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me.
Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows.
But take heart, because I have overcome the world.”
Where do you rest your feet after a long or tough day?
I'm seeking your feedback today ~ Do you have a favorite blog? A favorite and/or recurring theme? A favorite aspect of the blog itself? How or why the blog encourages you? If you could title one blog for me to write, what would it be?
Looking forward to hearing your comments, suggestions, and feedback.
Two options to help:
Leave a comment to share your favorite blog and/or blog style
use the survey question below.
Thank you in advance!
The lesson I would like to share is also a change in mind-set, or at least it was for me. I arrived at the conference on Thursday a "writer" but returned home on Saturday an "author". Until one of the presenters, author and speaker, Elaine W. Miller, mentioned this, I didn't realize there was a difference.
So, as any first-born author, I went to the dictionary. Each word has multiple definitions with similar wording. I thought about creating a VENN diagram to show you the similarities and differences but then said, "No way, there are still a few weeks before school starts." so I chose a different format.
1. a person engaged in writing books, articles, stories, etc., especially as an occupation or profession; an author or journalist.
2. a clerk, scribe, or the like.
3. a person who commits his or her thoughts, ideas, etc., to writing: an expert letter writer.
4. (in a piece of writing) the author (used as a circumlocution for “I,” “me,” “my,” etc.): The writer wishes to state….
5. a person who writes or is able to write: a writer in script.
1. a person who writes a novel, poem, essay, etc.; the composer of a literary work, as distinguished from a compiler, translator, editor, or copyist.
2. the literary production or productions of a writer: to find a passage in an author.
3. the maker of anything; creator; originator: the author of a new tax plan.
4. Computers. the writer of a software program, especially a hypertext or multimedia application.
author -VERB (used with object)
5. to write; be the author of: He authored a history of the Civil War.
6. to originate; create a design for: She authored a new system for teaching chemistry.
To take this a step further, Elaine W. Miller ( http://splashesofserenity.com/), made it clear if I, or you, want anyone else to think of you as an "author" and not just a writer then we MUST COMMIT and BELIEVE and LIVE OUT an author's life -- actively writing and seeking publication, tracking hours used for "author" related activities, and prioritizing this path with family and friends. It is only when we view ourselves as an author that those around us will also change their perspective.
I remembering thinking, "This is a simple concept. Piece of cake." While the concept is simple, the application requires dedication, discipline, and focus. To help keep myself, and yourself, moving forward as an "author" ~ we need to surround ourselves with like-minded authors. One way to do this is through blogs, websites, writers' groups, and conferences.
Each Tuesday I have a blog titled after my sister, Heidi M. Allen, and her high school nickname from her stellar volleyball skills. She was named the "Tower of Power" by media, hence TOP's Tuesday.
My sister, Heidi, kidnapped on Easter Sunday 1994 remains missing today. I've written three books, all released this year. In January I released, When the Waves Subside: There is Hope. On April 3, the 19th anniversary of Heidi's disappearance, I released an inspirational nonfiction titled, Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey. This summer I released an organization book to record important events and dates so you can encourage others, Encourage Others: One Day at a Time.
I mention news, updates, and upcoming events throughout the week on the blog when they come about yet there are many I save just for the Tuesday blog. My regular readers know if they are looking for upcoming events or anything new and exciting, it will be announced in Tuesday's blog. If you are new to blogging or looking for a new twist, I recommend a weekly blog series. The topic and format depends on your genre and purpose yet the goal is the same, to reach your readers and keep them reading.
Below is a list of The Indelibles: Indie Life participants. Each sharing wisdom to help us each reach our goals. I love to write and always have but as an adult, I'm an author!
To be an author, one must believe & live as if he or she IS one.
To be "x", then you must believe and live as if you are a "x".
What is your "X"?
What are you doing to ensure this becomes a reality?
Do you know what that miracle is? It is YOU!
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. How precious to me are your thoughts, God! How vast is the sum of them! Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand when I awake, I am still with you.
She wrote the usual “Happy Birthday”, “Glad we are friends”, and such within the card. It was the quote at the bottom of the card that meant the most to me. The best gift she gave me that day, a Bible verse.
The verse she gifted me was Zephaniah 3:17. I wasn’t familiar with my Bible too much at the time. I’d never heard of this book but the words touched my heart. Since then, this has become one of my favorite books and verses. I found this to be the perfect birthday verse. God rejoices over us with singing! How cool is that? I know. Beth’s gift to me has carried through the years on a couple levels.
The Lord your God is with you,
the Mighty Warrior who saves.
He will take great delight in you;
in his love he will no longer rebuke you,
but will rejoice over you with singing.”
This morning as I read Our Daily Bread, the following verse spoke to my heart in a similar way as Zephaniah 3:17. A verse to write down, make a book mark, and treasure for the next 365 days, and possibly beyond.
My verse for this year:
But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
To him be glory both now and forever! Amen.
2 Peter 3:18
A HUGE thank you to my Mom for making today such a special day by spending her time preparing my favorite dinner treats, ice cream cake, and even some money for school sh0pping. Thanks to Ed and Mags for the Elmo and birthday balloons and always making me smile. It was a GREAT birthday! Thank you all!
I pray you recognize the miracle you are,
cherish each day, and celebrate YOUR day.
Thanks for all the birthday wishes today!
What do you count on when your special day arrives?
Nineteen years ago I thought about this but for other reasons. Heidi had a choice to make when the school announced its closing. She could return to her home district for senior year or apply for college admission a year early. Heidi's determination to reach her goals only increased when the opportunity to double up for one year to earn her high school diploma and first year's college credits at the same time. Not only was she accepted, she finished the year with honors.
Heidi disappeared in April 1994, she was set to graduate with her associate degree in May 1994 from OCC. Despite her motivation and drive, a second graduation was taken from her. The first due to finances and the second due to ???.
As Heidi's peers celebrate their twentieth class reunions with their friends in each of their home districts, I pray at some point this evening, Heidi is remembered on some level. Not on a depressing level but one of joyful remembrance. I'm thankful for Heidi's friends that remember me, keep me in the loop, and call me their friend too.
I send congratulations and prayers to the class of 1993! Have a great night and weekend. For those who knew Heidi ~ thank you for being a part of her life and high school memories. May you always remember Heidi, celebrate each moment, and cherish your loved ones. Thinking of you all this weekend.
Calling graduates of 93' ~ is there a memory of Heidi you would like to share with each other and Heidi's family?
We thank you all for remembering Heidi!
The family appreciates each call, email, and message about Heidi's case and the possible "tips" that may have been missed. If you remember, or know something, we encourage you to contact the Oswego County Sheriff's Department at email: firstname.lastname@example.org or via phone: 1-888-349-3411, 1-800-724-8477 or 315-349-3411.
Heidi's family has full confidence in the integrity of the Sheriff's department but understand not everyone agrees - if you aren't comfortable contacting the Sheriff's department directly, I've added a "Tip Line" to my website - this information goes directly to the family.
The family is asking for tips and case related information to go through law enforcement or the tip line (which goes to a family member) through my website.
Direct link by clicking on photo above or: http://www.lisambuske.com/tip-line.html
This is to ensure the safety and well-being of Heidi's family as the tips stir up much emotion. We know this isn't the intent when you share case related information, yet the sleepless nights from calls to family member homes brings back April 3, 1994 with intensity. We hope you understand we aren't pushing anyone away, just trying to maintain healthy boundries for all involved.
Thank you again for sharing what you remember and respecting the privacy of Heidi's family in the process ~ your time, tips, and understanding is much appreciated.
We all have the same goal - to bring Heidi home!
In addition to sharing Heidi's age progression, I was blessed with the opportunity to sign books and meet those who remember Heidi. One even came with her camera so she could post a picture of us on Facebook. Thanks cousin Marilyn, isn't she the cutest.
Tammy and I visited at my book signing table about the new age progression drawing by Diana Trepkov for my sister Heidi M. Allen. Heidi, kidnapped on Easter Sunday, 1994, remains missing today and an age progression is a necessary step in the process. There are thousands of unidentified bodies across the country, an age progression increases the chances to match Heidi to one of these, or to one that is found in the future. Tammy shared one of Diana's statements, the drawing is 75% Science and 25% Art. This was something new to me. I've ordered Diana's book so I can learn more about the Science involved in developing age progressions.
In case you couldn't stay up to watch the 11 p.m. news last night, I've posted the interview below. God is good ~ we're thankful for the doors He continues to open to bring Heidi home.
“Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find; knock and the door
will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and
to him who knocks, the door will be opened.”
Thank you for remembering Heidi and sharing this updated age progression ~ may you be blessed in return.
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