Instead of responding to blogs and enjoying the summer, Mom had the privilege and joy to make new friends at St. Joesph's Hospital in Syracuse. I want to give a huge shout out to the staff on the observation, 2-8, and 3-2 floors. These individuals don't just treat illness, they establish relationships with their patients. I'm thankful for those we met along the way.
My parents wanted, and needed, time to process the realization Mom has terminal cancer with the privacy necessary to make decisions and plans. This will be a time of family, memory making, friends, and joy.
No one can stop the unexpected change of plans so instead, we'll embrace each moment, like many of you have done in the past or are experiencing firsthand. Cancer is far too common. I'm not the first daughter to travel this journey nor is my Mom the first diagnosed...but it's the first time for us, just like it was the first for you.
Below is the message I shared on Facebook yesterday.
To my friends, family, our community, and those who hold my parents near and dear to their hearts. We have tried to share with as many as possible in person yet it's not a reality.
Out of respect and privacy for my parents I haven't shared details but Dad and Mom think it is time for others to know.
It's out of respect for all of you who lift them and our entire family in prayer since Heidi's disappearance and beyond that they choose to open their heart to you.
Over the past year my Mom's health has been a challenge. The past couple months drained her and she's spent the past few weeks in the hospital. After many tests, pokes, and prods...a diagnosis was rendered and tomorrow, Mom returns home to us with Hospice care.
What we thought was rheumatoid arthritis worsening due to stress ended up being cancer. My parents are the strongest people I know yet the cancer has progressed too far. Mom is choosing quality over quantity...we plan to make memories, cherish each moment, and enjoy every minute we have.
As many of you understand on a deep and personal level, cancer is far too common and we know there are few spared of experiencing this on a personal level through a loved one or themselves.
While Mom isn't up to a lot of visitors, if you'd like to send a card or note,
I know they would boost her spirits. Thank you so much for lifting her in prayer for a pain free and peaceful battle.
We plan to cherish our moments together,
make memories, and hold out hope for Mom to close her eyes
knowing the answer she longs to hear...Where's Heidi?
Ken and Sue Allen
73 County Route 6A
Oswego, New York 13126