During the first parent’s planning meeting for the band field trip I fought back tears as I realized in order to attend, we must miss the Ride for Missing Children. My precious daughter saw the look in my eyes and with such sweetness, “Mom, you can still go to the ride. I will be okay. I understand. You have to do this for Aunt Heidi.” This is when pain pierced my heart the most.
Ed, Mary, and I all enjoy our time with the families of other missing children, volunteers, and the riders yet the opportunity to spend a weekend with Mary in Boston is a once in a life time situation. Thankfully, the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children’s (NCMEC) dedication to increase awareness and keep our children safer, “one child at a time” allows us to join them again in September.
Hmm…that was a statement to think about. I walked through the door and tears warmed my eyes as I transitioned down the hall. How do I express to you the turmoil and confusion felt to make the right choice?
In cases of missing loved ones, it is common for the living to blend into the background. This is not deliberate yet it happens. Events like the RMC provide one on one time with other mothers, fathers, siblings, and extended family to gather and share the joys, pains, and struggles of living life in the unknown.
It is this same reason I know they will understand why we are not with them tonight and tomorrow. We need to live for the living. Our parents, children, aunts, uncles, and community need to know we love and value them as much, if not more than our missing loved ones.
Mags, it is with pure joy and love that I join you on this wonderful field trip. To our RMC family – love, prayers, and hope lifted to God in your name today. If you are on the bicycle, may the wind be on your back tomorrow, with hope in your heart for the thousands of posters you raised with your fundraising.
Life is full of choices. Some will be easy. Others will tear at your heart. Regardless of the level of difficulty, with prayer and guidance from God we will survive.