Each year on the way to Auburn and on the way home, we pass this enormous Adirondack chair. There hasn’t been a trip in either direction someone didn’t utter the words; “We should stop and take our picture with that big chair.” Well, this year we managed to remember on the way home. Only two of us, and one little bird, braved the chilly wind for a photo-op.
With the exception of the Oswego Reading Council’s annual Writing Contest final preparations and its award ceremony in the middle of May, the only projects on my list relate to my writing and speaking. This is an amazing feeling. With each screw placed into the new deck off the back of our house, I smile.
The neighbors might hear, “bzzz, bzzz, bzzz” all day but I hear, “Lisa, your backyard office and escape is one screw closer to completion.” I am blessed with a father, husband, and brother-in-law with the love, energy, and talent to make a dream…reality.
This enormous chair is a reminder to us all to listen, to HIS words. “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
God’s love for us is greater than anyone could express here on earth and His lap is bigger. If you are weary or tired, stressed or in need; then I encourage you to rest in the knowledge of God’s great love for you. I might have needed a ladder to climb onto this chair but the only thing you need to climb onto God’s lap are three little words… “Help Me Jesus!”
We are home from God’s refreshment at the Alliance Women’s annual “Spring Refresh”. It was Mag’s first experience and she enjoyed it more than I could have hoped for, God answers prayer. The speakers were amazing, the women in attendance some of the most radiant and fragrant women in the North Eastern District. It was pure joy to spend the weekend with each.
Last night I snuggled under the covers with my notes, a notepad, and my Bible. The goals ~ look up the verses I had written down and review my notes. The result ~ supplies tossed to the ground, glasses on the dresser, and fast asleep (literally). This morning I awoke and moved my pile to my comfy chair and accomplished my goal. The speakers challenged me while refueling my battery. Now I only need to catch up on the lost sleep from the past couple weeks and in God’s strength, I plan to move some mountains.
I am sure to share more of the retreat over the next few days but for today, enjoy a photo blog!
A tradition for our time away is something to set us apart and unify us as the women from Community Alliance at New Haven. This year a wonderful friend shared her sewing talents to make these fabulous bags. Mags and I filled them with a few of the necessities you might need while attending a conference. A great way to begin…
Another creative and ingenious lady made us each a necklace and t-shirt with the theme in her designs. We looked amazingly sharp, if I don’t say so.
As if being challenged to grow in my relationship with God through prayer and a missional mind and heart, the Alliance Women’s director let me set my tri-fold and business cards out on the display table. I pray the women in attendance in search of a new and/or out-of-the-box speaker saw my brochure and contact me. I look forward to scheduling more events this year.
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It is the fragrance of Christ.
“God uses us to spread His knowledge everywhere like sweet-smelling perfume. Our offering to God is this: We are the sweet smell of Christ among those being saved and among those who are being lost.” 2 Corinthians 2:14b – 15 (NIV)
This morning started with a visit to the doctor’s office and concluded with worship with sisters-in-Christ from across the North Eastern District of the Christian and Missionary Alliance. We have had a wonderful and refreshing day together.
The laughter from the moment we put the first bag into the back of the van brought sore cheeks and a warm heart. We might have started our journey later than expected but the fun shared, priceless. We arrived with three minutes to spare and pep in our steps.
In addition to the time with the women and teens from church, I have been blessed with hugs and visits with some of my Facebook “friends”. There are mixed emotions as it pertains to social media yet as I exchanged real hugs with my FB friends this afternoon and again before retreating to our hotel room…nothing beats the embrace between friends. And a hug between sisters, the cherry on top of a great day!
Our first session reminded us to pray daily. Then we learned the blessing of obedience to God. A break and then a wonderful roast beef dinner followed by worship in song, missionary minutes, and a message to explain the connection between “body wash” and “sanctification”.
Faith Bogdan closed with this analogy, Jesus is our body wash. Through His death and the blood shed at Calvary, we are wiped clean of our sins. Just like you can’t take one bath and remain clean, neither can you recognize Jesus’ death and resurrection for your sins without reading your Bible and prayer.
More tomorrow! So much fun! The planning committee and speakers have worked hard in preparation for this weekend AND they’ve done a fabulous job. Friday has been fabulous and with God in charge, Saturday is sure to be Superb.
1 personal day + bags packed =
a weekend with my girlfriends
1 Bible + my journal =
opportunity to learn and grow closer to my friend, Jesus
10 gifts + prayers and love =
a surprise blessing for my girlfriends
Today is my Friday! WooHoo! At this time tomorrow evening, I will be relaxed and in the process of being refreshed through teaching, worship, and messages shared by the women of the Christian Missionary and Alliance church. Each year I attend the Spring Refresh or the Fall Refocus I am in awe of the Holy Spirit’s presence as around 300 women gather in His name.
The top photo is of my Gram, Mary (Hogan) Searles. She loved Jesus and trusted Him with everything. She quoted Scripture to me as I grew up and labeled them, “words of wisdom” or “Irish sayings” but the more I read my Bible, the more I realize she was sharing the Bible with me. Another thing she shared with me was her sense of humor and love of life. She knew how to have fun. If my Gram was in the room, plan on laughing. A trait I strive to carry on.
I chose this picture of her because she was super silly and made the most of all situations. Her facial expressions always cracked me up. If I was in “one of my moods” as many in my family called them, Gram was one of the few people (next to my Dad) that could break the nasty ugly bug that possessed me.
As we travel this weekend and spend time of refreshment, I pray to share a little spunk and joy with the women I meet. If the weekend itself isn’t exciting enough, Mags and a couple other teens will attend for the first time. A blessed weekend.
Don’t worry I’ll share the experience via the blog with you through the weekend!
As I continue to “Walk with Him” thanks to Ann VosKamp I am encouraged at all, things I can be thankful for each day. The past twenty-four hours have been eventful and I remember a time when Mrs. Ugly would have come to visit. Only with the grace of God did I remain loving and with the right perspective.
Our guest blogger on the 2nd and 4th Monday of the month, Mags, has been sick. I won’t bore you with the details yet between yesterday afternoon as we left the driveway for the doctor’s office and today, after a long night of fever and illness ~ I have a thankful spirit. In spite of the yuck during the night, I still found things to be thankful for.
Today’s list of thanks is dedicated to Mags. Continue to feel better my wonderful daughter! Many are lifting you in prayer.
The doctor fit us in at the end of the day
Clarity of thought
Insurance to cover bulk of the cost
A smile and hello from the pharmacist
Enough money in the wallet to pick up yogurt too
Not a single Mom
And dryer in our home
Cold water for the cloth on her forehead
The sleeping husband
I’m not a single Mom
“Mom!” when in need
Meds starting to work
Peace in the storm
Sunshine streaming through the window
Ed had the day off
Benefits of sick time
Afternoon off to care for Mags
And to get some sleep
Prayers lifted on Mag’s behalf
A kiss on a cool forehead
Last load of laundry finished before I got home
Bed made too
Food in our tummies
Hope for tomorrow
As I listened to my husband’s snores during the night as I cared for Mary. As I washed the walls, carpets, and bedding the lumberjack sounds created began a spark in my soul but as quickly as they came so did the Lord’s love. From anger to realizing how blessed I was.
“Thank goodness I’m not a single Mom. At least in the morning or tomorrow afternoon I can catch a nap. Ed has the day off so I don’t need to use an entire sick day, only half, and this won’t cost us financially. While I might be scrubbing now, I know Ed will finish whatever laundry isn’t done when I leave and will take over with the cool cloths on her forehead when I leave. Mags is home and fighting a fever and infection, true, but she isn’t in the hospital fighting for her life. So much to be thankful for.”
I am most thankful Mags is feeling better this afternoon, due to the wisdom of our doctor and the medicine God has created to heal our infirmities.
God is good ALL the time...ALL the time, God is Good!
Can you believe it is snowing and hailing in Upstate New York on April 24th? I welcome the snow between Thanksgiving and March, or even early April but really, the end of April? Yikes!
Speaking of the end of April, deadlines are fast approaching. I have three fabulous books to read and review for upcoming blogs. I’ve started each and am looking forward to writing a snip-it to share with you. I have laughed until my sides hurt, closed them so I could think about a piece of wisdom shared, and read parts aloud to my family or whoever might be in ear shot because it touched my heart so much.
In addition, there are a few writing contests I am praying about submitting to and then there is “Where’s Heidi?” and the next book, whatever that might be. I’m so excited for the words, both written and spoken; God has for me to share the remainder of this year.
This weekend I will be retreating with my sisters-in-Christ to be refreshed. An added blessing, my daughter will attend this year too for the first time. God is good and we look forward to this time together and the time with our church family and extended family of God. I look forward to the way God will speak to me.
Is there something on your agenda in the next week or weeks to stir anticipation or anxiety? I pray your schedule is one of blessing and peace. If there is something totally stressing you out, pray about it. Maybe that isn’t supposed to be on the calendar. Just a thought.
As the publishers consider “Where’s Heidi?” for their publishing house, will you join me in prayer. I continue to pray for the publisher and team God has for my first book. For His timing, grace, and mercy throughout the process. May He be glorified in its publication and lives drawn closer to Jesus. I pray to be obedient to the call God has on my life.
Thank you for your prayers everyone! May you be blessed in return. Your love, support, and prayers are blessings in our lives and I pray for each of you while I blog too.
Happy Day! Today is a happy day, for we live in a world where God can perform miracles, and save us all from the depth of hell. I'm going to be honest lately, I haven’t been my-self I’ve been "Hanging with the devil" and that’s not me at all.
So, I’ve had to go back to God ask for forgiveness and ask for his loving hand to come and touch me. And may I say God has preformed the Monster of a Mags back to a reasonable level of snootiness No! God has made me a ton better, more like who he wants me to be.
So now that I have shared with you, you can assure yourself that the Mags that does the blogs is a TEENAGER! She sins, then gets grounded. It’s a cycle that I am trying so hard to stop. But you or I can't stop all bad habits on our own.
WE NEED GOD AND JESUS!! We need to pray and repent and learn from our mistakes.
But the moral of this is ~ we are not going to get ANYWHERE without God and that’s the truth.
The pineapple photograph is dedicated to all eighth graders. Enough said!
Today’s photograph, taken last August during the Dunsmore family reunion. The theme, “Armed Forces”. Since Ed was a Marine (sorry, still is because “Once a Marine, Always a Marine!”) in our younger years I found this fabulous “I love my Marine” t-shirt at the Salvation Army for $1 and I wore it in celebration of the 2011 theme and to make sure everyone knew who had my heart.
As part of the festivities, there was a face painter too. With my silly sense of humor, I asked her to paint “Property of the Jarhead” on my forehead. She agreed and laughed the entire time she did it.
A fun day with family and to celebrate my wonderful hubby.
Have you ever done something silly or out of the norm to show your love for your honey?
Please share it in a post below.
Come on, it’s easy enough. If I can post a picture that should only be seen in next year’s family reunion photo album, you can certainly post one thing you’ve done to show your love for your wonderful husband or wife.
I look forward to learning more unique, quirky, sweet, and enjoyable ways to express my love. Share!
Snow in the forecast! Seriously? To live in Central New York one requires the ability to accept change and be resilient. The recent weather forecast is evidence of this requirement. I remember my freshman year in college someone asked where I lived and I responded, “Upstate New York, less than a mile off Lake Ontario in Oswego County.” I’m not sure which was funnier their verbal or non-verbal response. Her eyes bugged wide open as she declared, “Oh, your tough then. My mom warned me to be careful of anyone from upstate because you are tough nuts.”
Of course I laughed my head off and assured her I wasn’t too tough, if anything I was little dependent and wimpy. After some thought and a phone call home I understood this girl’s mother’s statement a little better. I don’t believe she meant to insinuate we were tough like bullies but instead, tough like nails. I’m all for being tough like a nail, aren’t you?
Even though I didn’t see myself this way at the time, it is something I have been thankful for since my sister’s kidnapping. The first decade I tried to do it on my own but the more effort I put in, the weaker, I seemed to be, on the inside. I was only as tough as the cheap aluminum nail holding me together.
Thankfully, in 2004, this changed and I learned it was possible to be the nail made of steel and coated with the protective seal against the pain, hurt, and all the ick life could send in my direction.
Wikipedia defines a nail as “…a nail is a pin-shaped, sharp object of hard metal
or alloy used as a fastener. Formerly wrought iron, today's nails are typically
made of steel, often dipped or coated to prevent corrosion in harsh conditions
or improve adhesion…A nail holds materials together by friction in the axial direction
and shear strength laterally. The point of the nail is also sometimes bent over
or clinched after driving to prevent falling out. Nails are made in a great variety
of forms for specialized purposes.”
You are an intelligent and sharp individual, dipped in the blood of Jesus when you accept Him as your Savior. When life seems difficult, with a lot of friction in your path, remember the blood shed for our sins so many years ago. His blood is our protective coating.
Just like a “…nail holds materials together by friction...” we have the ability to hold ourselves together when life’s challenges come our way because we have Jesus! In His shear strength, we stand and keep it together.
It is only with friction that a nail can do its job. Don’t expect life to be all rainbows ~ in order to see the rainbow; we first have to get through the storm.
Close your eyes and imagine all the glorious rooms built in heaven because of the friction in your life. Go and be a nail today, you can do it!
Many nails working together can build great things in His name and strength.
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4
A Thursday evening at home, a blessing. Instead of attending a free writing class at the Fulton Public Library tonight, I decided to put on my jammies before dinnertime and call it a “night in”!
My dad made dinner when I stopped to pick up Mags. While he cooked, I read a bit and then fell asleep sitting up. Of course my beloved daughter snapped a photo for proof I do rest. lol
It is time for a night off.
After eggs, bacon, pancakes, and homefries we headed home.
I have enjoyed time with Mags – helping her study for a Science assessment, listening to her read, and now enjoying the piano and percussion serenading me. We finished our surprise for the women at retreat next weekend and sat on the couch together to watch a little NCIS.
A brief blog tonight = extra time with my girl. Take some time for your kids tonight!
See you tomorrow!
Hello everyone, I pray you were able to get outside and enjoy the sunshine this week. I listened to a radio teaching this morning on my way to work (I apologize for not knowing “who” I was listening to – it was on 102.5 in New Haven, New York, lol). The person talking, and yes I cannot even remember if it was a male or female (how did I make it to work? LOL) either BUT I do remember the jist of the message.
The point of the message is we should NEVER stop being amazed or in awe of God’s working in our life. When we stop recognizing all the wonders He does for us and start to settle or “expect” them, we are allowing satan a foothold. Hmm...They recommended expressing our praises and thanks aloud and to others as a way of keeping our eyes fixed on the amazing blessings from God.
This brought a smile to my face in light of our “Walk With Him Wednesday” blog today and it went along with one of the chapters I read in Elaine W. Miller’s new book, We All Married Idiots: Three Things You’ll Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can. I love it when God puts the pieces together, don’t you.
Ann Voskamp’s book, One Thousand Gifts and her website, “A Holy Experience” are such a blessing and I’m honored to join her on the journey to list one-thousand things I’m thankful for this year. Have you started your list? Why not?
Here are a few on my list this week.
“Can I have a hug?”
“I love you Mom”
Fence taken down
Deck blocks delivered
New and old friendships
Joy in heartache
A sense of humor
Spiders falling on my head –
To make me dance –
And shake –
Then laugh –
And itch all day…lol
Very Interesting Edible (photo below)
“I am thankful for this past year of getting to know the Buske family! What a gift God gave me!” posted on my FB from a sister-in-Christ
Strength only found in Him
Many parts…one body
If you have started to list the things you are thankful in your life – how has this process changed your outlook on each new day? Will you share ONE thing you are thankful for this week on today’s blog? Your thanks might be the blessing someone else needs today ~ you wouldn’t want to deprive someone of a blessing.
As we give thanks to God ~ hearts are encouraged and look to Him in awe. A great place to stand…in awe of God’s grace and mercy.
Hello everyone. It’s another week of Vlogging on the blog, love it! Thank you so much for your feedback, it is both appreciated and helpful. Although this is a one way conversation, I feel like we are in the same room. A special thanks to those who have sent a question for upcoming Vlogs. It’s never too late. You can post your questions below on the blog, send it through the “contact me” page, or drop me an email at email@example.com. I look forward to hearing from you.
Today’s Vlog question:
“Lisa, what is next after you find
a publisher for “Where’s Heidi?
The Search Begins”?
*My apologies for the video quality this week.
Oh my gosh, Mags and I had tears in our eyes as the computer microphone morphs my voice part way through. This Vlog will make you smile and laugh while you learn a little more about me!
I believe both my computers need a TLC visit now. So sad.
First of all, thank you for the encouragement and hope expressed in your question. God has placed my manuscript in the hands of a few publishers which is so exciting. I continue to pray for the publisher God has for my first book and as I wait…I continue to write.
As with most things in life, it is a matter of timing. Last fall I tossed the idea around of taking my blogs and developing them into a book of devotionals for the grieving sister. Then over Christmas break and the early part of this year I considered developing a fictional story I started a few years ago. Then this year’s “Heidi Remembrance Series” triggered another thought.
Actually it was one friend’s question to me in the midst of the series and just before Easter that started the thinking and then further conversation with another friend, the new idea was birthed. The best part is God has given me a title with an idea on how to end “Where’s Heidi?” so it leads into the next book. WooHoo…
What is next? I will continue to write and speak for Him. As He opens the doors, I pray to walk through them in faith and His strength. Only He knows truly what is next but my hope…lives changed because they learn through my book, there is hope and healing through a relationship with Jesus.
This morning we took the kids out to the playground for recess before lunch. Little first grade legs scurried in the fastest walk you might imagine down the sidewalk as they looked towards the playground. At first, I thought their excitement was because the swings have returned, but I was wrong. Once off the cement and over the pavement over half the students ran into the field with shrieks of laughter and pure joy.
With the exception of about a dozen kiddos, they blew PAST the brightly colored equipment until they reached the grass and dandelions. Some were rolling on the grass. A few lay on their backs to look for shapes in the clouds. In addition, many started to pick beautiful bouquets of flowers.
One of the kids blessed me with a flower but in less than fifteen minutes, I too had a bouquet to bring home. With each flower, I said, “Thank you so much. I love it.”
One girl who typically struggles in math came up to me, saw I had two flowers and handed me two more as she said, “Now you have four Mrs. Buske.” Wow. This sweet young girl was simply sharing her joy with me but taught me a valuable lesson; never underestimate a person’s ability. Who knows, maybe on paper “2 + 2 =” is simply a bunch of numbers but when it comes to expressing her kindness and heart, two flowers makes double in one of her teacher’s hands.
Jesus is right, we can learn so much from a child. They didn’t need fancy equipment or toys today. Sunshine, a cool breeze, and an array of yellowish-orange dandelions sparked creativity, compassion, and concern. Not one child out of nearly fifty picked themselves a bouquet of flowers! Every single child picked oodles and oodles of flowers to bless someone else with.
Even though the floral arrangements, highlighted with blades of grass “for color” might have died during the afternoon – it is the thought that counts. The next time you look into your newly mowed lawn and those annoying weeds start to take over, I encourage you to remember the generosity of a child. One person’s weeds are another’s joy.
Jump for joy and share the love with another!
P.S. To my Daddy – I love the look of mulched dandelion bouquets too! LOL
I guess I should start with an apology for the tardiness of today’s blog. I know I said it would later in the day but my gosh, it is after 6 p.m. already. Where did the day go?
It was a blessed and wonderful day today. With the car loaded with everything I needed for this afternoon’s presentation, we were off. We arrived within minutes of our set goal, unloaded the car, and joined our brothers and sisters-in-Christ at Fulton Alliance. We were welcomed with such love, we felt at home instantly. I finally was able to meet Pat, whom I’ve spoken with many times but had yet to meet.
With Ed and Mag’s help, everything was set up and Pat led us to the sanctuary and introduced us to everyone. My mother-in-law, sister-in-law, Darlene, and Aunt Rose were walking through the door at the very moment we entered the lobby. Instead of racing from our home church in New Haven, we chose to worship in Fulton so the time in between church, lunch, and my presentation could be spent fellowshipping and mentally preparing – instead of racing the clock. This is not good for the mind or the speedometer.
To Read more about today’s speaking event:
This is my “Forum” page. I started this page in December 2011 so those who attend my speaking events have a place to call “home” on my website. Everyone is welcome to visit this page, read, and comment. I look forward to hearing from you.
After a delicious and bountiful lunch, I shared my message. The hugs, prayers, and encouragement following blessed me more than I could have imagined. Ed and Mags packed everything while I visited. Thanks, you are the best!
After a visit to my parent’s house to share how wonderful the day was, my mom took Mags and I shopping!! WooHoo…short blog tonight but much fun and memories made with my mom and daughter. Thanks Mom!
See you tomorrow! Be sure to visit the “Forum” page to see pictures from today’s speaking event and a more detailed blog.
As the weekend approached, I had plans to attend New York State Missing Person’s Day in Albany all day today with a speaking engagement tomorrow at the Fulton Alliance in Fulton, New York. On Friday afternoon, I busied myself to prepare for both traveling to Albany Saturday and last minute preparations for Sunday. Generally, I don’t take a change of plans well but I’m getting better.
Due to circumstances out of my control, I didn’t make it to Albany. While my heart was sad because we wouldn’t be there, I had a sense of peace about it too. I slept over twelve hours last night and woke up feeling better than I have in a week. I was able to enjoy some extended quiet time this morning and extra prayer time for tomorrow’s speaking engagement.
As I write today’s blog at 10:55 p.m. I realize I’m not sure how I would have been ready for tomorrow if I had left my house at 4:45 a.m. and returned around 10:00 p.m. It wouldn’t have happened and most likely, I would not be as prepared for tomorrow afternoon as I am now.
God is the King of all. I believe this includes our schedules. Thank goodness, He closed the door of travel and opened a door of preparation and prayer because I feel rested and ready for tomorrow.
Today’s photos reminded me the message I will share tomorrow. With God as our foundation, we can get through anything. Right now, these foundation blocks don’t look like much BUT with the proper tools, supplies, and effort…they will develop into something far more beautiful than I could imagine. God can do this with our lives too when He is our foundation…we will more than we ever dreamed to be. Thank goodness.
Do you ever find yourself saying, “Thank goodness it’s Friday!” or “I can’t wait until Friday!” I know I have in the past and probably will again in the future. Yet as I drove to my mother’s after work this afternoon, I thought about why everyone is so hyped up about the weekend. If you work Monday through Friday, with weekends off then of course you are looking forward to your time away from work. If you have a rotating schedule, your “weekend” might be on a Tuesday and Wednesday.
If your weekend is a typical Saturday and Sunday, what do you do to make them more special than the other five? Is this a time to spend time with your family? Relax? Rejuvenation for your mind, body, heart, and soul? OR is a forty-eight hour workfest?
I’ll be honest my weekends aren’t usually 100% restful or rejuvenating. Although Mags and I have the weekends off, my husband’s schedule rotates so he may or may not be home with us. For the most part, we try to reserve Saturday mornings, to sleep in. My internal alarm clock usually prevents me from joining in this ritual yet I use the extra quiet time to have some coffee with a dear friend who can take the backseat during the workweek in the morning.
You read that correctly. I just admitted I neglect my time with God during the workweek sometimes. I try to put myself to bed at a reasonable hour. I set my alarm for 4:45 a.m. in order to have time to read my Bible, journal, and enjoy some quiet time – one of communication and refreshing. Some mornings I can’t seem to wake up. My body shouts, “Oh no, not yet.” And before I know it, the alarm is turned off and I’m not up until the second alarm goes off at 5:30 a.m.
Yes, I still have some quiet time before I start to wake my beloved sleeping teen but it doesn’t seem like enough. I don’t know, maybe I just need more rebuking and guidance than the average person does? I don’t think so though. The more I write and speak for Him, I learn I need more time in the Word and sitting at His feet. I don’t want to treat God like a fast-food drive through, speeding through so I can get to my next destination. Instead, I want to receive the daily nourishment needed so I can sustain and be all He wants me to be.
The weekend seems to be my time to banquet. During the week I might have days of fast food but the weekend is a time to feast on His insurmountable bounty of nourishment. So my confession on this Friday evening is…I struggle to find the time – no make the time – make myself get out of bed forty-five minutes earlier to sit at His feet and seek His feet. This I do know…although I don’t feel like I spend enough time with Him during the week…He gifts me time on the weekend to fill in the holes and replenish the drain.
This weekend, will you set aside time to rest at the Father’s feet and communicate with Him for a little while. This Sunday, will you purpose to set the alarm and join others to lift worship and praise to the One responsible for the breath in your lungs and the pep in your step?
Do you struggle to spend time with God during the workweek?
Not so long ago, even when I was a child, stores were closed on the weekend so families could worship and spend time together.
Do you remember a time like this?
If you struggle for quiet time during the week, how do you find the time to keep you going?
Do you dedicate some extra time on the weekend?
Last year as I started to prepare my book proposal for “Where’s Heidi? The Search Begins” the Lord placed this book on my path. I read the review on Amazon and thought, “This is similar to my book, yet different because she focuses more on her sister’s actual case with her life interwoven. I can list this.” I also started to follow her blog and eventually we made contact with each other.
In remembrance of Heidi’s disappearance, my parents presented me with a Kindle Fire, the first book downloaded – “A Child is Missing”. I’m ashamed to admit I didn’t buy this as soon as I found it yet after reading the last few chapters, I know there was a reason for me to read it this past week – only God would have known my mindset and thought process this Easter season.
Karen writes, “I begged the Lord, “Please, God, let me have a forgiving heart, one like Yours…I prayed not only for them to be caught and justice to be served but also for their souls and their eternal destination…I didn’t wish for anyone to spend eternity there (hell), even if I though they deserved it. God gave all of us a way to avoid what we truly deserve…” Yes, yes! This is exactly where I am in my journey – learning to pray for Heidi’s abductors, learning to forgive them, and the birth of my sequel to “Where’s Heidi?”
I devoured Karen’s book in less than two days. She writes from the heart and shares an honest account of the difficulties involved in life when your sister has been kidnapped or murdered. Karen was only fifteen years old when her sister was abducted, raped and brutally murdered. Her parent’s grief required Karen and her siblings to take on leadership roles in her sister’s case. A role I’m not sure I could have done at the age of twenty-two, when my sister was kidnapped.
I lost my one and only sister but Karen writes about losing her sister and then her brother. As if this pain wasn’t enough, she watches her father lose an agonizing battle to cancer and then her mother decides she can’t take it anymore and commits suicide. Yet not all this tragedy traps Karen in darkness.
“The tragedies in my life had taught me never to take anything for granted; the lesson was engraved upon my heart. I knew from experience that the ones you loved could be taken away in a single moment…In time I learned to cling to the loved ones I still had and make memories with them that would last a lifetime. Would I forget the past? Never, but I thanked God for the ones that He’d left behind. I’d cherish the time with them, look to the future, and deal with the past as best I could.”
Karen’s faith and honesty are inspiring. She could have retreated behind closed doors and said “I’ve had enough” but she didn’t instead, she reminds the reader, “Silence is not the best way to deal with a crisis in your life.” Instead, we need to trust God and lean on Him. Karen worded this beautifully…
“If I could take it all – the sadness, the hurt – and put it in a box, lock it, and throw away the key, I would. I was tired, so very tired…During this trying time, I turned to Scriptures for guidance…Being on alert every waking hour was exhausting…My life included a strong faith in God. With Him, life’s journey is difficult; without Him, it’s almost unbearable.”
In addition to her role as wife, mother, and author – she is an advocate for other families waiting for justice. She continues to use the energy fueled by loss to help others and be a catalyst for change. Thanks to Karen and her family, New Hampshire now has a Cold Case Unit and her sister’s case (among others) has been reopened due to the bill they lobbied for.
“My family may never see an arrest in Kathy’s case, but it will happen for some other family, and we will rejoice with them. Our fight was not only for Kathy but for all those who still wait for justice.” Karen Beaudin, A Child is Missing
I highly recommend this book to any sister dealing with the loss of their sibling. This is an authentic account of our journey…searching, praying, and waiting.
To order a copy of Karen’s book:
(Or click on the book cover (top) for a direct link)
To visit Karen’s website:
(Or click on the photo (below) of Karen on the railroad tracks for a direct link)
To follow Karen’s blog:
(Or click on the photo (middle) of Kathy, Karen’s sister for a direct link)
As I continue to walk with Him, He continues to amaze and overwhelm me. The blog series between Daylight Savings Time and Easter Sunday was healing and a joy to write. Your responses on the blog, in my email, on my answering machine and even with old fashioned cards -- warmed my heart brought smiles and tears throughout our journey together.
Thank you for remembering Heidi this season and all through the year.
For this week's "Walk with Him Wednesday" I have a special announcement. I'm thankful and praising God for the acceptance of my first magazine article to the ALife Magazine. In an upcoming issue, my testimony of coming to have a relationship with Jesus and this journey of writing and speaking for Him will be published. Once I have a release date, I will share it with all of you.
To walk with Him...praise, thanks, and an overwhelming awe flood my heart, mind and family. Ephesians 3:20-21 reminds me of God's ability to do "above and beyond" my expectations and imagination, yet I find myself constantly smiling towards heaven with a joy in my heart.
In addition to my first magazine article being published in an upcoming issue, here are some things I am thankful for.
The boldness of a child
People praying for me and my family,
before I even met them
An open heart to listen
and to change.
For Jonathan's willingness to let me share
and his parent's permission
For my critique's group honest and constructive encouragement
For the editor who selected my article for publication
My friends, family, and encouragers
The opportunity to speak for Him
Clothes for Mary
DD coffee from my secret pal
Sunshine on a rainy day
A hug hello
Freshly tilled soil
new deck blocks
rain to water the flowers
Friends I've yet to meet
First of many contracts signed and mailed!
What are 3 things you are thankful for today?
Will you share below?
Do you have a brother or sister? This is a simple and innocent question, right? I used to think so too until…until my one and only sister was kidnapped…until we became the parent of an only child…until I saw the pain in another’s eyes when asked this question. Of course no one asks this question with ill intent yet for the only child or the sibling living as if he/she were an only child due to a tragic loss, it can sometime sting.
I remember the first time the school took “sibling” shots for the yearbook. There was a big deal made yet for the only child, with not even a sibling at home – she felt excluded. Siblings are a gift and a blessing.
As I read the Oswego Shopper this weekend about upcoming events at ARISE I learned something new. Today is “Sibling Day”! Although it isn’t a “national” holiday yet, it is a recognized holiday in some states.
Claudia, a native New Yorker, lobbied for this day after the tragic death of her brother and sister. Her efforts started in 1996 and 3 years later, success. Claudia A. Evart established the “Siblings Day Foundation” in 1999. Presidents “Bill Clinton (2000) and George W. Bush (2008) both signed Presidential Messages recognizing the holiday, and in 2001, even former governor George Ryan issued a proclamation acknowledging National Siblings Day.” (1)
She selected April 10th in honor of her late sister, Lisette’s birthday.
Today’s blog is to honor our siblings – all of our brothers and sisters! Almost instantly, from the first word written I thought of the sibling living as an only child or those born into this role. I want to encourage you to look beyond your bloodline. Through our relationship with Jesus Christ, we all have the opportunity to have a multitude of brothers and sisters, in His family.
I may have lost my one and only birth sister and no one could ever take her place, yet through my new birth and relationship with Jesus – I have learned it is acceptable and healthy to have “sisters” in my life. Heidi would never want me lonely and isolated. I’m thankful to have so many siblings today…more than I could have ever dreamed of. Between my sister and brother-in-laws, sisters and brothers-in-Christ…I’m abundantly blessed.
Claudia A. Evart founded the “Siblings Day Foundation” to highlight the special and unique bonds we have with our brothers and sisters. I read many articles in preparation for this article and a few talked about the bond between siblings is sometimes stronger than that of a parent and child. I’m not sure it is stronger, but is different. So today I celebrate and honor my wonderful sister, Heidi M. Allen AND all my brothers and sisters through marriage and my relationship with Jesus.
In memory of my sister, Heidi M. Allen – Happy Sibling Day everyone!
“The siblings bonds are life-long relationships usually lasting from cradle to grave. It is usually the longest relationship of a person’s life and typically much longer than a mother’s and father’s relationship. Siblings Day strengthens the family unit by reminding us that a bond with our siblings is forever a special gift. If you are fortunate enough to have a sibling, you know the relationship has a tremendous impact on our lives. It is important that we understand how vital it is to cherish, love and respect our brothers and sisters in the tradition that was handed down by our parents and grandparents.” (2)
I encourage you to pick up the phone, send an email, send a card or note, and do something special for your brothers and sisters today! Remember, just because you are an only child or your sibling may have passed – through a relationship with Jesus…you will NEVER be without a sister or brother to call on when you need a friend! Be blessed today…
Siblings Day Website:
Children’s Literature To Share with Your Kiddos:
Have you ever noticed your strengths, have you wondered…Is it because of my birth order? Recently I wondered that question. And I researched, hoping to find the answer to my question.
I went to Google and typed in “birth order traits” and here was my answer. The links are at the bottom if you wanted to visit for yourself.
If you’re an only child, then you are like Tiger Woods (Pro golfer), Selena Gomez (Actress, and singer), and Mags Buske. And studies show that MOST only children are dependant, like their mother, and are often spoiled and overly protected.
Now if you are a firstborn, then you are like Brad Pitt (actor), George W. Bush (former president), and Lisa M. Buske (Author and Speaker).Studies show that if you’re a firstborn then you like power, are organized, orderly, dominant, and most likely turn to father when next child is born.
If you are a middle child then you are like Britney Spears (singer), Madonna (Singer). Studies show that when you are a middle child you are a mix of First and lastborn, and are a good negotiator, and that you are most likely not afraid of your authority.
Last but not least, if you are the youngest then you are like Jim Carry (actor) and Rosie O’Donnell (Actress). And studies show that the youngest child is often funny, personable, and creative.
Now answer the question do your strengths match you birth order/placement?
Write a comment below if you’d like to. Now to close I encourage you to leave me a question or a few questions that I could blog about later.
Happy Belated Easter Everyone!
Mary’s Challenge: Try to go one day with only a smile on your face
Links for more information:
http://pbskids.org/itsmylife/family/birthorder/article2.html (First Born)
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Lisa M Buske
P.O. Box 323