The holidays are meant to be joyful and a time of celebration. Yet when you have a hole in your heart left from the loss of a loved one, it requires more effort to remember the meaning for all the jubilation.
This year I'm missing my mom and sister more than I have the past couple years. Each morning I make a conscious decision to put my feet on the floor and focus on all the positive and good in the world, and in my life.
I am blessed with a loving family, fabulous friends, and a job I love. So rather than focus on the things that I've lost, I choose to focus on the multitude of blessings that surround me. This holiday season, I pray that you were able to do the same.
A tradition my mother had was changing her tablecloth to match the holiday inn time of the year. As I sat around thinking about my mom and doing nothing, I realize she would want me to "suck it up" and get over it. Put this in mind, I went to Pinterest, isn't that where we always go when we're aimlessly searching for something.
I found a pattern for a hexagon table cloth and then thought about some fabric that I had in my bin, and went to work. I only have the top done but it's on our table nevertheless. It makes me smile. It's like having a little bit of mom with me at Christmas.
I'll finish the tablecloth this weekend but for this afternoon, I'm going to enjoy the top as I relax, remembering the meaning of the season. Our loved ones will pass away and be away from us during the holidays BUT the memories we hold in our heart will carry us through.
What have you done to remember a loved one this year?
OK, it is Monday morning and I am sure your minds and to-do-lists are overflowing. As you start this week, remember the meaning of Christmas is to celebrate the birth of Jesus.
I too can get wrapped up in crossing things off the list, cleaning, and the busyness. My challenge to myself, and to all of you, is that we kick up your feet and take time to relax.
The list will still be there in the floor will still need to be vacuumed but as you sit, relax, and just look at your tree or whatever lights you have in your home will bring you such peace.
Share when you relaxed and how it helped!
as I sit at my sewing machine, due to the layout of the room, I'm able to have a companion. She typically will stand up in the back of the couch and just stare at me, or look towards the door when she needs to go out.
She's a little jealous of the sewing machine but I've decided that she is a dog and sewing is relaxing soI continue to sew. At the same time, I miss having her in the room when she ops to sleep in front of the heater. Sometimes when I so, she will just stop and look in the other direction. I find myself asking her "What are you looking at?"
I'm happy to report that she doesn't answer me yet, and when I get to that point I will be sure to seek help. LOL but seriously, as I think about my dogs lack of focus, I'm challenged to look at my own lack of focus. I've made mistakes sewing because instead of making sure my right sides of fabric are together, I end up having to go back and rip out the stitches and do it again.
I think we are the same way in life when we don't keep our focus on what's right before us. We might be missing something. What if, our pets have it right? What if we listened with their supersonic ears and just went to what was important at that moment? How would our days and our lives be different? Something to think about.
What are you looking at today?
I'm thankful for the way God works in my life, and especially my heart. It started with a post about my bad attitude towards the snow. Yesterday we looked the word "forward" as a verb instead of a direction. Today I have a BIG A-HA moment to share with you that can change my life, your life, and the lives of those you run into throughout the day.
Instead of focusing on the future or the past, slow down and take time to focus on the right now! Seriously, think about it.
If we focus on the family snuggled on the couch with us instead of those we've lost, how could this change our perspective.
If we focus on the family and friends surrounding us in times of joy and sorrow today, does it matter what tomorrow brings?
Advent and Christmas is a time to remember we have a lot in our lives. At times it's a challenge to see the positives BUT there are always positives and good things happening in our lives when we stop, look, and listen. What are you waiting for?
When you focus on the hear and now,
Lisa M Buske
P.O. Box 323