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Happy Easter 2013 ~ What a way to begin

3/31/2013

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A picture of me this year with my Easter basket ~ 1974, before Heidi was born. Let us celebrate, Jesus is Risen!
Happy Easter from our family to yours! Celebrate Easter by remembering what Jesus did for you. We will start the day with breakfast and worship with our church family. Then we join my parents for the day. This year instead of mourning our losses, we celebrate and enjoy the company of the family and friends we still have here on earth.

Enjoy your day!
I know we plan to.
Lisa, Ed, Mags, Ken, & Sue...

Thanks for remembering Heidi this, and every Easter!

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Keeping it Real with 4 Days to Go

3/30/2013

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Happy Easter Eve and the final countdown to the release of Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey!!
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Heidi would Say,
"Really? All this for me? You shouldn't of...but since you've gone to all the trouble...
BRING IT ON!!!"
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"Are you serous? You want me to do what?
I thought the next four days were to relax??"
This photo was taken the day we met Governor Cuomo and he honored Heidi.
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Every girl needs
her nails done,
especially with hot pink
open-toed shoes
for the big day!
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And of course the cake
needs to be made!
Yes, I could let the River's End
do it (they did offer) BUT
I have something special in mind.
We are keeping it fun,
wait until you see what I am up to
for Wednesday night at 6 p.m.!
I apologize in advance to my diabetic family, friends, & readers!
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April 3rd wouldn't be complete without a surprise for my parents. This is the first year I give them a clue on the blog of what I am making! Keeping it fun here on the blog!

looking forward to this coming Wednesday, April 3rd at 6 p.m. ~  River's End Bookstore
19 West Bridge Street, Oswego, New York

Can't make it to Oswego - Amazon.com at MIDNIGHT on April 3rd!
Of course I can't sign the copy shipped overnight to you! Tee Hee...
And you can't enjoy cake either...Hmmm....the decisions.

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The Best TGIF of the year...Good Friday

3/29/2013

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I knew the meaning of Good Friday since I was peanut, thanks to Gram and Nancy taking us to church each week but it wasn't until the after 2004 that I understood the humbling meaning and significance of Jesus' death. He was crucified on the cross for my sins. Although He bore no sins of His own, He chose to die for me and for you.

My only sister, Heidi M Allen, was kidnapped on April 3, 1994 ~ Easter Sunday. I remember asking, "Why would someone kidnap a person on Easter?" The law enforcement's response to this question left me to shake my head in disbelief. Criminals thrive on holidays because there are less people frequenting the store, less traffic on the road, and minimal law enforcement patrolling. Seriously?!

I spent a decade avoiding Easter celebrations, blaming God, and Easter. In truth, the only thing the holiday, Easter, had to do with Heidi's kidnapping was it made it an ideal day to kidnap Heidi. The kidnappers used the silence and innocence of our town to their advantage but thankfully God works for good in the worst of situations.
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The first car on the scene, a sheriff's deputy. People remembered the time they drove by or left their money on the counter because it was Daylight Savings Time. It snowed that morning, so this slowed traffic down. Although it was a horrific and tragic day ~ I realize now it wasn't God who took Heidi but instead it was God who used the holiday, Daylight Savings Time, and the purity of snow to help in the search for Heidi.
Jesus died so I can live free of my sin. It doesn't mean I should go about my day sinning on purpose. It is quite humbling if you think about it and a good reminder to not sin. I might get in trouble for my sin, regret a bad decision, or have someone point their finger at me in disbelief (because I am human as the next person) but a sinless man, Jesus, died for my sins.

It's a lot to take in, isn't it? Do you see that little girl looking into the camera with a question on the tip of her tongue? I don't know what I was thinking that day but I've always asked a lot of questions.

This year, instead of asking questions about the details in life, I encourage you to ask the important question...Who do you trust with your life? Have you trusted your life to Jesus? He died for you too...

Friday is here...but Sunday is coming!
How will you remember the price paid for your sins?

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"Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey" Releases Soon

3/28/2013

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On April 3, 2013, you are invited to join my family and I at the book release celebration, hosted by the River's End Bookstore located at the intersection of West First Street and Bridge Street (Route 104), Oswego, New York at 6 p.m.

The evening will kick-off promptly at 6 p.m. with a warm welcome from The River's End, then a few words about the writing of the book by little ol' me. 

I look forward to meeting you on April 3, 2013 at 6 p.m. at the River's End Bookstore in Oswego, New York to celebrate the release of Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey as we come together in remembrance to honor Heidi on the 19th anniversary of her kidnapping. 


Nineteen years ago, we gathered to search and pray for Heidi, this year let it be a time of laughter as we share memories of Heidi and Hope for tomorrow.

~ April 3, 2013 ~
Midnight - Amazon.com
? - Mystery Book Signing
6 p.m. - River's End Bookstore RELEASE PARTY!!

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Where's Heidi? Releases ONE WEEK FROM TODAY!

3/27/2013

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A photo of Heidi and I coloring Easter Eggs with my Dad, a priceless treasure to see each time I come across it. Our parents worked hard to provide for Heidi and I. Sometimes this meant they might miss a softball or volleyball game, be a few minutes late picking us up, or even take a power nap after dinner. One thing never faltered though, it was their dedication to "family". This isn't a word to my parents but a way of life. No matter how tired or stressed they might have been with the responsibilities that go with being an adult, they ALWAYS made time to make memories. 

One of my favorite aspects of our family when I grew up were the large family gatherings for holidays. New Year's Day we remembered family members already passed away at the Sacred Heart Church and then went out for breakfast or to Great Uncle Bill and Aunt Jeanette's home. Easter was always at my Gram's house. Christmas Eve was always at Great Aunt Kay and Uncle Buss' home. Thanksgiving was at Uncle Bob and Aunt Louise's house. Great Uncle Pete and Aunt Ellen hosted various holidays too. From the oldest to the youngest babe, at least three generations came together.
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In addition to large family gatherings, my parents made sure there was something special at home too. They taught us to value family and the blessing each moment was. Sometimes our time at home was creating something like an Easter bonnet or our dish to pass. Dad had his favorite things to do with us, one of which was decorating the Easter eggs.

Both Mom and Dad taught us to respect and enjoy our extended family while also cherishing our smaller family unit. I thought about sharing Holly Dunn's "Daddy's Hands" today but then saw this song, "Daddy, You're My Hero", and thought this was more fitting. Just as carefully as our Dad dipped the eggs into the various colored cups, he raised us to respect others and ourselves. He taught us to appreciate all we have without expecting it. 

I'm thankful for the amazing Dad we grew up with. His example made it easy to understand how God, our heavenly Father could love me. God provided an example of a father's love from the moment He created me in my mother's womb. In less than a week, others will know just how amazing my parents are, especially our Dad.

Do you understand how deep your Heavenly Father's love  is?
How will you celebrate Easter this year with your family?

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T.O.P.'s Tuesday ~ Mystery Book Signing Clue #4

3/26/2013

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Oh my goodness, in exactly one week and a day, the book I vomited onto paper will release for the world to read. At Midnight on April 3, 2013, Where’s Heidi? One Sister’s Journey will be available online. At 6 p.m., The River’s End Bookstore hosts a book signing and release party. And twelve hours after its online release, I will be signing have my first public book signing.

As if this isn’t exciting enough, friends are traveling hours to join us for this day of celebration. Now the decision is to cook or let someone else cook. I want to do some crock pock cooking for the day to feed my friends as they arrive but my husband says I shouldn’t do anything but enjoy the day and to order in. My response, but that cost money and I’ll have nervous energy to burn. But the decision has been made – I’m not cooking. What we will eat is still to be determined but it will either be delivered or picked up my wonderful husband. He is too sweet!!

Do you think it will be nice next week? I wonder if we can sit on the deck and visit and enjoy some sunshine and vitamin D? Time will tell. Time…Heidi disappeared on April 3, 1994. This was also Easter Sunday and Daylight Savings Time. These three triggers remind me of our family and community’s loss. God used the Daylight Savings Time to help witnesses confirm exact times because they had just changed their clocks. The holiday is another aspect of time, holidays tend to stand out in one’s mind. The date, forever the day I last new where my sister was.
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Next week, I will visit the places Heidi and I spent so much time together at and ones significant to the case. Of course there is the store, at the intersection of State Route 104 and 104b, the New Haven Volunteer Fire barn, the intersection of County Route 6 and State Route 104 where the Heidi Allen Center moved in May of 94’, and then there is the bridge dedicated to Heidi at the intersection of County Route 6 and County Route 1.

Although I will drive by them all, there is only one where I’ll set up my handmade book signing table (Thank you Dad and Mom – it is beautiful). I will have a tent in case the weather is snowy like it was nineteen years ago. But in the end, I will sign my first public copy of Where’s Heidi? One Sister’s Journey in the same spot I enjoyed time with my sister…it’s up to you to decide which of the above places that might be.

Next Tuesday will be the first T.O.P.’s Tuesday of April. On April 2, 1994 I said good-bye to my sister after much laughter, never knowing it would be our last good-bye. Next Tuesday, we say hello to hope because Where’s Heidi? One Sister’s Journey will release the next day. I will forever miss my sister and I pray this book helps to bring her home.

After the loss of a loved one, have you noticed how precious your last conversation, adventure, or time spent together becomes? How do you keep that memory alive?

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Even the Easter Bunny Signs His Name

3/25/2013

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An aspect of publishing I didn't give much thought to until last month was my signature and the dedication. I've attended book signings in the past, saw them in movies, and met numerous authors at workshops and conferences but never did I see any of them struggle over how to write their name or what to write as a dedication. So why did I have an "Oh my goodness, I have to sign my books for people. What ever will I write?"

Rather than beat my head against the wall or practice my signature a hundred times like I did in junior high, I went to my book shelves. I opened various books I've purchased, been gifted, and accumulated since my childhood with an author's signature in them. I made a mental note of how different authors signed their books. Some included a dedication too while most just signed their name. Most, if not all, the Christian author's signed their name with a Scripture reference also. The books with a personal dedication came from authors I personally knew or have a connection to. So, did I learn what I was searching for?
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The answer is "yes"! Just as no two people are alike, neither are any of the books tucked on my bookshelf. Topics, themes, and styles might be similar but each author is unique and my connection or interest in their book is different. 

So the manner in which an author dedicates and signs his or her book, is truly up to the author. I've decided there are many things I can stress on in life. 
The way in which I sign my name, dedicate my book, or select a Scripture for the note isn't important in the grand scheme of life. Of course I want it to be neat, speak to the reader's heart, and share a verse God used to make a difference in my life but to spend countless minutes debating what and how is wasting the time God's given me.

A week from Wednesday you will have two opportunities to meet me in person for a personal copy of Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey. The first at the mystery book signing during the day and the other at 6 p.m. in Oswego at the River's End Bookstore. 

If you aren't in New Haven or Oswego on April third, you can purchase the book on Amazon.com at Midnight! On April 4th, I will post upcoming book signings and speaking engagements on the blog and possibly add a calendar to site too. As of last week I am scheduling into September. I am excited, encouraged, and humbled at the way God is working in our lives through the release of Where's Heidi? and When the Waves Subside. 

Thank you for joining us on this journey ~ the sister's journey. Be sure to read tomorrow's blog, the final T.O.P.'s Tuesday of March, with the last of clues for the mystery book signing on April third. The April second blog will review the clues and give you an opportunity to guess, but wait until April 2nd so as not to ruin it for those who haven't seen all the clues or want to stay in suspense another week.

What is your favorite Easter treat and/or tradition?

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Palm Sunday...A Time of Preparation

3/24/2013

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Who is in this photo? Great question - Left to Right
Back Row (standing): Sue Allen (My amazing Mom), my Great Aunt Kay Allen, my Cousin Amy Allen, my Great Aunt Judy Spencer, my cousin Gwen Allen, and my Gram Mary Searles
Front Row (sitting): my Great Aunt Ellen Raby (on couch), my cousin Carol Raby, my cousin Terri Downing, myself, and my cousin Shawnacy Searles.
Okay, so this first photograph isn't of Heidi and I yet it does reflect the wonderful, fun, and amazing family we were raised in. The reason for this picture today instead of  later in the week will be revealed after focusing on the importance of Palm Sunday.

Today is Palm Sunday. For most, this is the start of Holy Week with Bible readings detailing Jesus' Triumphal Entry. I thought about giving you a Biblical history lesson but decided to let the "Skit Guys" do it instead via a Youtube video. I hope you enjoy it. They share the truth of the Bible and the significance of today, the Sunday before Easter ~ with a respectful humor.

Please understand it isn't my intent to ignore the importance of today in relation to Easter. My hope is to let a couple goofy guys, with a humor similar to mine share with you about Palm Sunday while I share a little about my fabtabulous family. Of course the picture above is on Easter Sunday because we are sporting our homemade bonnets.

Palm Sunday kicked off the annual "Easter Bonnet Decorating Contest" in our family. I don't know how it started but I'm sure it had something to do with my Gram and her sisters. They probably wanted to make sure we were focused on Easter all week, and so we did. There were prizes for the prettiest, most creative, and the silliest. If I missed one, I'm sure Mom or Auntie M will fill in the missing pieces.
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I must admit, this was one of my favorite things to create. Our family dinners were always exciting and involved some element of competition and fun but at Easter, it was special and seemed to mean more. You can tell by looking at the variety of bonnets, creativity is in the genes. I still think my Mom's were always the best. She came up with the best ideas, but I might be partial.

One thing we liked about this competition is the kids had to make their own bonnet, without help from an adult, to keep it fair. I cried many a time because I wanted my bonnet to be as cool as my Mom's but it always seemed to crash, rip, or be destroyed before the judging. But then I forgot to take it and played all day wearing my bonnet. Hmmm...go figure.

Did you notice in both of these Easter photos on today's blog, people are in shorts? Praying for a warm Easter next week, I have a mystery book signing outside in nine days. Oops, did I just slip another clue? lol
So while we read about the Triumphal Entry today, of Jesus' preparation for death on the cross ~ remember there is joy and celebration a week from today because after Jesus suffered death on a cross for our sins this coming Friday, He rose again on Easter Sunday. With thanksgiving, through our relationship with Jesus ~ eternity is real!

What traditions do you have during Holy Week?
Which bonnet do you think won the year this photo was taken?

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Life is a stage or in this case...a picnic table

3/23/2013

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The other night we sat around planning the blogs for the days leading up to April third. Of course the T.O.P's Tuesday blogs were written over Christmas break and saved in my draft file, so they are done. The one thing we knew for sure, it was time to share some pictures and stories of Heidi and I from our youth. This has become a tradition here at the blog in the days leading up to Easter and the April third anniversary date. This year shouldn't be any different.

Today's fabulous blast from the past photo album highlights myself, my cousin Shawnacy, and then Heidi. It was taken at my Gram and Aunt Nancy's home. For those asking, "Are they standing on the picnic table?" Why yes, we are! And the adults knew it. I don't remember the day but knowing we are on stage (yes, the picnic table became a stage once covered with beach towels) and probably preparing or ending a show.

One thing we were known for, was putting on shows. If there was a family gathering then you could count on this crazy group of girls organizing, choreographing, and practicing a routine of some sort to perform when the entire family was there. As I look back, we were very blessed. Not only did we spend a lot of time (out of the adults hair while they visited) preparing but the adults always, and I mean always, stopped what they were doing to watch our performances.

Can we say the same of our time together today? At family gatherings, do you let the kids put their creative talents together in a constructive way? When the kids tug at your shirts and ask you to come watch, do you? I pray you do. I am guilty of not stopping myself. God used this blog to remind me too.
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Another favorite thing we liked to do was sing into our curling irons. I would climb on top of my dressing table, lift the attic door a little, and Heidi handed me the end of our curling iron plugs. I placed the plugs above the door, set the door gently down, and jumped to the floor.
"What are you girls doing up there?"
is heard through the floor from the dining room below us.

"Nothing Mom, just dancing..." giggles echo down
the stairs for the inquiring Mom to hear.

"Lisa, you better not be climbing on your furniture again."
Mom walks to the bottom of the stairs.

"Don't worry Mom, we're just playing."

Once the Mom radar returned to her tasks at hand, the fun really started. Heidi and I would turn on the radio or put a record on (yes, we had records, lol) and assumed the position. We grabbed our curling iron microphones and sang our hearts out.

A performance only fit for the dog or our stuffed animals. No adults were invited because we would get in trouble for opening the attic door and climbing. We were bold, not stupid. I tried to find the photographic evidence of this but not sure which album it's in but I know there is one. So I improvised.

I brought my curling iron into Mag's room and asked, "Can you take my picture?" After multiple failed attempts to toss my curling iron plug into the attic door, I settled for the linen closet door above her bed. She said, "Why didn't you just use your hair brush? Is this how you did it in the old days?" Ouch, that hurt. Isn't she cute?

So whether you sang into your curling, sing into a hair brush, or with your I-pod...I hope you are making memories and singing. Life is too short. Have a great day!!
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"Raising the Roof" for the Hope and Healing I have...
What are you celebrating today?

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Meet Diane Estrella and learn ways she helps Authors!

3/22/2013

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~ Let's start with a couple "Lisa Definitions" ~

Rafflecopter: In a nutshell, a way to spread the word about a product 
and give away a FREE item. In my case, it is a way to share 
Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey with readers I might not reach 
and to give away another FREE copy 
of Where's Heidi? Are you excited? I know I am!

Diane Estrella: An amazing woman, marketing expert and 
a great person to contact if you have a book coming out or one 
you wish to promote. In addition to organizing Rafflecopters, 
Diane's blog and creativity will gain exposure and new readers 
for your book or product. I've known Diane a couple years and continue 
to be amazed at her heart to help others.
An Interview with Diane Estrella to help us all 
(yes, even me) learn about this great "Rafflecopter" give-away.
Lisa: What is a Rafflecopter, anyways? 
Diane: Below are some of the 'what's' on how to run a giveaway using a Rafflecopter. Haven't heard of this??? Here is some info on what they are, what they look like, and even a little Rafflecopter for you to jump on and enter to win a $5 Amazon gift card! How's that sound??!!?! Yes, please!

Lisa: What is a "rafflecopter?"
Diane: Only the funnest and easiest way ever, to hold giveaways on your blog/website or even on your Facebook fan page! I run anywhere from 3-6 giveaways http://dianeestrella.com/"at my site every week. Usually they are book giveaways but you just never know what goodies will appear on my sidebar under "Current Giveaway." There is no cost at all to enter, and I feel it is heavenly joy to discover you've won!!! Go to www.rafflecopter.com to find out more info. The basic Rafflecopter I use is totally free, but there is an upgrade available that you can purchase also.

Lisa: How does it work? 
Diane: The one below has a "Free Entry" as the first thing you need to do. Click on the green "+1" button, then hit "enter." Score!!! You have one entry already toward that $5 GC. The Rafflecopter then 'opens up' for more possible things to do to earn additional entries. Earn as few or as many as you want.

Lisa: How long does it take to organize one? 
Diane: Depending on how many entries you want to offer people, it usually takes me, from 10 to 20 minutes total. There is an option Rafflecopter offers, where you can duplicate a previous giveaway and then edit it for a new, similar one. It most definitely saves a lot of time.

What is your favorite aspect of the Rafflecopter?
Diane: Other than the prizes (obviously), it is a quick way for people to enter, with all the links you need right there supplied. Very little jumping through hoops and when the giveaway is over, Rafflecopter will even pick a winner for you using random.org.

Lisa: Favorite aspect of organizing a Rafflecopter and assisting authors?
Diane: Getting to check out all the social media sites the author uses. I like looking at their web pages too, for new ideas on how to improve and always be moving forward. Book giveaways are always a popular way that authors can promote their books and give back to their readers and fans.

Lisa: Why is this one way you choose to minister to other authors?
Diane: Authors are busy and need some love too. This is a way I can encourage and help authors get their books out there to my readers and as many as I can connect to through social media. I love being a conduit!

Lisa: How about a little giveaway? 
Diane: Open to US addresses only. One person will receive a $5 Amazon gift card e-mailed to them. Please use the Rafflecopter below to be entered:

A winner will be chosen from those entries and announced April 1, 2013 (no foolin'). Good luck! Gift card provided by Diane Estrella @ That's What I'm Here For....http://dianeestrella.com/.
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I extend a huge thank you to Diane for taking time out of her schedule to do this interview with me, and even more, for offering you all a chance to win $5 Amazon gift card. In April, Diane will be doing a Rafflecopter for Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey for me. This time you could win an Amazon card, next time...Where's Heidi?

There is one thing Diane didn't share with you in this interview yet I feel is important to note. Yes, Rafflecopter is free. Yes, most could set this up and organize it on their own. BUT like myself, most authors are working full-time jobs in addition to writing and possibly speaking. Time is a valuable commodity and is precious. Diane's desire to help others motivates her to set time aside to help others.

This comes with a cost ~ time away from her family, her personal writing, and reading books for upcoming reviews. Diane doesn't charge for her time to set up Rafflecopters or organize blog tours yet she does this because she believes in helping others, especially when it comes to sharing Jesus. 

As Diane's talents become more known and her schedule fills up, the time away from her family for this part-time job requires her to make some changes. Diane doesn't want to charge yet due to her cost, she started requesting donations. This isn't a mandatory payment, it's an opportunity for those Diane helps to support her in return. 

I could set up a Rafflecopter on my own but instead I chose additional time with my family. The least I can do is bless Diane for the time away from her family, so that I can be with mine. This isn't a money making business. We are one, helping the other, so more will know there is hope in our ever growing dark world.

I hope you'll enter for a chance to win a FREE $5 Amazon Card!

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"Get Your Head In The Game"...of Life

3/21/2013

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We have a choice in life, actually, we have many choices in our lives. After Heidi disappeared in 1994, I chose to be angry and frustrated with the world. I spent a decade wearing a mask of acceptance yet those who knew me, the one hidden behind the smile and good times, know the tears and pain I really felt. In less than two weeks, many of these feelings will be revealed for all to read. This is a scary feeling yet at the same time, I pray it saves others from wasted time of searching for something or someone to fill the void left from the loss of our loved one.

One thing I learned at a young age, we must be flexible. If you live life so focused on being a certain person, doing everything a certain way, or expecting schedules to function as planned ~ not only will your days be long,  you are apt to be cranky a lot. For those who know me, I continue to grow in the area of flexibility at times, especially when it comes to scheduling. I know we aren't guranteed tomorrow yet I like to know my schedule for the next six months. I think this comes from being a third generation teacher. For as long as I remember, our calendar was filled in as soon as the new school calendar arrived in August. A tradition of organization I carry on.

For those living life in the publishing world, you know flexibility is required. Things never seem to go as planned, deadlines seem to be written in pencil at times, and waiting is a must. Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey releases on April 3...IN LESS THAN TWO WEEKS! I thought March would be my "down time". Oh my, I was wrong. I've strived to be on top of, and ahead of the game, as much as I possibly could. Lists are eliminated and new ones are created.

I continue to read blogs and posts of authors, editors, and publishers. Some provide tips and strategies to make one's book launch a success, among other things.

Here are my words of wisdom to other Indie authors as I cross the final days to the release of Where's Heidi? off my calendar:
*Don't try to do it all
*Don't try to do it on your own
*Accept help
*Recognize the doors God opens and closes
*Be prepared for things to change
*Don't get upset over the little things
*Trust God and keep your eyes focuced on Him
*Write from your heart every day
*Don't give up!!
*BE FLEXIBLE!!

I've decided to share some photos of Heidi and I each day as we lead up to April 3. Heidi is missing but never forgotten ~ A Sister's Journey, my journey, shares kidnapping through the eyes of the sister left behind. I will never forget my sister. I look forward to sharing pictures of Heidi and I, enjoying each other. Memories...Thanks for joining us on the journey.
My heart grieves the loss of a dear friend and hurts for a friend who lost her
husband unexpectedly this past week yet one thing I learned after Heidi's
kidnapping...we need to get our head back in the game.
I miss my friends and sister...
So with momentum of remembrance,
it's time to get my head back into the game.

Call me Gumby!

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In TWO WEEKs from Today...Celebration & Remembrance

3/20/2013

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It doesn't seem real at times, at least not to me. In two weeks from today, Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey releases to the public. The first draft vomited onto paper in 2006, six and a half years ago. In 2010, the Holy Spirit went to work on my heart and mind to transform the vomit into a book of hope for others hurting and grieving the loss of a loved one, especially their sibling.

I told my Mom in Kindergarten, "I want to be a professional writer, whatever they are called." She smiled and encouraged me to reach for the moon. Dad, the realist in the bunch said, "Lisa, I'm sure you will but get your education and have a day job. Writing doesn't pay the bills." Both encouraged me from age five to do and be whatever I dreamt. Yet in 1994 when my only sister was kidnapped, I don't believe any of us thought this tragedy would be the story to birth my writing career.

There isn't a day I don't miss or think about my sister yet thanks to my faith and relationship with Jesus, there is hope renewed every day! Even in weeks like we've had this month. Yesterday after returning home from a wonderful friend's funeral and celebration of life afterwards God blessed me with good news.

The copies of When the Waves Subside: There is Hope at the River's End Bookstore sold out and they requested more copies, double the amount from the first drop. As if this wasn't a blessing enough, when we dropped them off last night, three people had been in to purchase a copy since the store emailed me for more copies.

Such blessings. We thought this was very cool but then God put a cherry on top of this good news. Mags and I walked through the doors to see posters for Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey greeting us, with rack cards there too for customers to take home with them. Once at the register to pass the books to them, there was a fluorescent pink paper with "Meet the Author" on it. It was me!!

April 3, 2013 at 6 p.m. is the kick-off book release and signing party at the River's End Bookstore on the corner of West First Street and Route 104 in Oswego, New York.

Heidi will be missing nineteen years on April 3, 2013 - what better way to celebrate her life than sharing hope with all of you! See you then.

Will you be able to join us on April 3rd at 6 p.m.? I hope so!

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T.O.P.'s Tuesday ~ Mystery Book Signing Clue #3

3/19/2013

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Week three and the clues continue to stand out with a bold attitude, don’t you think. Is your mind racing? Have you zeroed in on the location yet? There are some who say, “I know where you are. See you then” while others are still asking, “I have a couple places in mind.” Whether you are one who knows or one still searching, my main question is this, ARE YOU HAVING FUN?

Life is too short to stress on the tragedy, loss, and disappointments of our past. Trust me. I spent a decade searching for something or someone to fill the void left after losing my only sister. Nothing did until a child shared Who I needed and who I needed to trust.

Today, I choose to shine as an example of hope for others. I don’t do this on my own and I couldn’t if I tried. It is only through God’s strength and grace that I can write, speak, and share the hope I found through Him.
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I have some who read it and said it was missing something at the end. My first response, after hanging my head with a slight shake was, “I know, but I struggled to write an end to a story that doesn’t end.” This reader touched my arm and said, “No Lisa, the end is beautiful. The thing you are missing are the tissues.” We both laughed. Then I said, “Wait, I don’t people to cry. What can I change?”

Her response was immediate. “Don’t change a thing. Your write from the heart and sometimes I cried from laughter and others because of the pain. In the end, I cried for joy, and hope, and for the journey you are on.” Wow…I didn’t know what to say so I said, “Thank you.” She smiled and said, “No, thank you Lisa M Buske for writing this book.

As we looked at the clock we noticed it was lunch time and neither of had eaten. More laughter with tears as evidence of a well spent break with a friend. As the clock struck Noon, we parted to our separate classrooms with smiles on our face. She encouraged me but you know what, I encouraged her too.

What encourages you?

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A Good Hymn Through the Decades

3/18/2013

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Friends of ours shared this video from YouTube with us a couple weeks ago. I have shared it with a few via email, have watched multiple times, and still laugh each time I watch it. When the words speak truth, they sound good through the generations. I hope you enjoy this as much as we did.

Have a great week and remember to visit the "Book Reviews" page - a new review will be posted this week! So goes Monday, so goes the week! Let us remember to smile, laugh, and enjoy life ~ today's video will emphasize your laugh lines!
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"Why did they have to die?" A Question with No Answer

3/16/2013

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A writer at a loss for words, go figure. Actually, for me to be at a loss for words is a triumph in itself but this isn't the message I want to share with you today. Both are true ~ I am an author and normally talkative person with little to say, or maybe it should be "unable to formulate thoughts". A lot is going through my head.

This morning I joined friends for a beautiful morning of worshipping the Lord through our choir practice, for Easter morning. I thought I had my emotions in check but there is something about walking into the house of the Lord and being in company of other believers. I was overcome.

I tried to discreetly wipe the tears, blow my nose, and return yet when we prayed, the tears transitioned from trickles to a steady flow of grief for so many. I looked around and this feeling was common among others in the room. The words for Easter reached to the depths of my heart this morning. I returned home perplexed and saddened.

My question to my husband, "What is my problem? Why can't I get it together?" He kissed me on the forehead with an "I love you." He kissed me on the cheek, "I love you." And then a gentle kiss on my lips, "I love you. You don't have a problem, you have a heart. Call if you need me." And off to work he went. (Is he a great guy or what, but don't tell him I shared this, he has a "tough guy reputation" to uphold, or so he tells me, isn't he cute?)
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Instead of working on any lists or cleaning the house, Mags and I watched a movie together. The latter part of the movie I enjoyed standing outside the bathroom door so I could curl my hair and catch the end of the movie, but for the most part, it was chill time. With the movie over and both of us ready, we headed to Oswego.

It wasn't our typical groceries and errands this weekend. These lists would need to wait until later too. Mary and I enjoyed a little K-LOVE for the ride in, talking about how we could pray for our friends.

Today, we joined friends to celebrate the life of a loved one who died much too early. My friend Amy's husband passed away unexpectedly this week. At the young age of fifty, he left his family and friends. Many are asking "Why?" In addition to his wife and siblings, Dan has three children who will grow up without their Dad their. "Why?"

I don't know the answer to this question.
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After the funeral Mary and I shared one more hug with our friends. I reminded them, "We are praying. Call when you need me." Mary and I sat in the car a moment before either of us spoke. "Mom, why are you crying? Is it because..."

A good question from an insightful teenager. She recognized the hurt, felt the pain, and understood the tears were deeper than the obvious. I cried because Dan died much too young. I cried because his children will grow up without a father. I cried because my friend is experiencing such pain, hopelessness, and fear for the future.

Then more tears as I think of my friend Lisa who passed away this week too. She was only in her forties and leaves behind a loving husband, two fabulous children, and a great family. "Why?" This is the question many have asked this week and in the weeks and years prior to. Death of a loved one before we think it is time, is not new. Yet no one answers this small yet important question.
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Maybe I should clarify that last statement. Many try to answer the question yet I believe the only honest answer is "I don't know." I don't know why parents grieve the loss of a child or why children need to grow up without one or both of their parents in their life. There is one thing I do know, the way we answer this question has a great impact on the heart and soul of the person asking.

I remember asking "Why did God take Heidi?" "Why did Heidi get kidnapped?" "Why? Why? Why"? Some responses helped while others created anger. It is this reason I continue to pray for God to give me the words, silence, or hug necessary to those hurting around me today. May I share His love, grace, mercy, hope, and healing versus creating more distance between them and the One who can help them the most.

I know today, God did not take my sister, yet in the depths of despair and the raw reality of her kidnapping -- this wasn't a truth I could grasp or even wanted to attempt to. I needed to blame someone, so sadly, it was God who received most of it. I still don't know today "why" Heidi was kidnapped or where she is. We don't know "why" she wasn't saved from this tragic death. We don't know "why" she remains missing nearly nineteen years later.

BUT one thing I do know, it is possible to survive and thrive after loss. I spent a decade searching for the answer to "why" and the only result was more bitterness, anger, and distance between God and the ones I loved. No where in the Bible does it tell say, "When tragedy and loss enter your life, if you are confused, then ask and I will explain it all to you." It isn't in there, I looked.

The Bible does say, "I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.” in John 16:33. (Also the verse I have included when I sign When the Waves Subside: There is Hope - thirty minutes searching the Bible for this verse and it was one I have read and written multiple times lately, go figure)

This is the truth ~ God overcame the world and there is hope. Romans 8:18 tells us, "Yet what we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory he will reveal to us later." So I can't tell you why the good die young. I can't tell you why my sister is one of America's missing.

The only thing I can tell you for sure is this ~ God loves you. God is right there when you need Him. God desires a relationship with you. God's shoulders are big enough, strong enough, and waiting to carry our burdens. If someone asks you "why" this week, be honest and say "I don't know". I found comfort in the honest answer. When people tried to explain the pain away, I only turned farther from God ~ may we show Jesus to the hurting, not hit them over the head with our Bibles. Just a thought.
Photos on today's blog were taken by Mary Buske. Thank you for sharing Mags!

It isn't about me...it's all about Him!
God already overcame the trials and sorrows...through Jesus' death and resurrection ~ a powerful Easter reminder.

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Thankful for the Time We Had...Part I

3/15/2013

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With a heavy heart I write this very short blog this morning. A dear and special friend passed away last night. As I sat here trying to formulate words, I was taken back to 1994, to a hug shared between two friends mourning the loss of their siblings. One of the few memories I have.

My friend's brother died in an accident, and my sister disappeared. A song selected to play at the candle light vigil one night, was the one you find below. After the vigil, we hugged and she shared the meaning of this song to her. I promised not to play it at another vigil.

Today, I share it with you on the blog because one thing that makes me smile through the tears today, is to know she is with her brother now and she is released of her pain. Prayers to her family, friends, our school, community, and the many lives blessed through knowing her.
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A Lesson Learned While I Waited In The Wind

3/14/2013

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One of our vehicles is at the garage for an inspection and a repair so I bummed a ride to work from a friend this morning. She texted (hmm...does text have an "ed"?) me once in her car and before leaving her driveway. I gave Mary a kiss good-bye with prayers to feel better today. I gave Ed a kiss with prayers for a good day at work then decided to surprise my friend and wait outside.

With my jacket on, hood up, and bag slung over my shoulder I ventured out and across the road so she wouldn't even have to pull in the driveway. This was a good idea but obviously not the wisest thing to do on such a windy and cold day. Regardless, I did it. As I waited to see her vehicle come over the hill my breath was taken away.

You might think it was with the cold wind on my unprotected face, and you might be right, but there was something else in that wind. Peace. I listened as the wind whistled through the brown branches and pine trees. I heard their creaks as each of the mighty trees behind our house fought to stand with their roots as a foundation. They leaned side to side but not a one fell.

Some branches rattled like deer antlers as the trees were forced into each other's space. Hawks chattered as they weaved between the openings, on a mission for their breakfast treat on the other side of the creek. Then silence. The wind calmed down and then nothing. Although the wind was chilling to the bone, the peace of God's love, protection, and provision wrapped around me.

"Good morning Lord. Thank you." I look forward to mornings on the deck with my Bible and coffee. I look forward to entertaining friends and enjoying their company. I look forward to sharing how God answered prayer during these difficult and challenging weeks. As I keep my eyes fixed on Jesus and look forward, there is something I must remember ~ to share all God has done in my life.

God blesses me each day and I continue to be amazed at his love and provision for us. Although life seems to be "happening" all around me, if you now what I mean -- I rest in the loving arms of my Heavenly Father. Don't misunderstand me, we are not at the end in the Buske house yet we are under a spiritual attack.

Peter reminds us, Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour." 1 Peter 5:8 We are on alert and know the Truth -- "The wicked run away when no one is chasing them, but the godly are as bold as lions." Proverbs 28:1 - we too, can roar like a lion with the boldness of Christ in our hearts, lives, and home.
The enemy attacks and God protects.

The enemy steals and the Lord provides.
 
The enemy plants seeds of doubt and God blooms seeds of hope.

The enemy was defeated and God Reigns!!
A revelation I had this afternoon was to record
the ways we feel under attack
so after Where's Heidi? is released,
we can recount every way
God answered prayer and triumphed!
And share this list with others as evidence of

Roar like a lion with the boldness of Christ...He is the King!

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March Indie Life Blog Hop...Where's Heidi?

3/13/2013

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It's time for our monthly "Indie Life Blog Hop" here at the blog. This is a resources blog for other "Indie" authors. I was asked, "Lisa, is "Indie" your publisher? I don't really get what that word means, but I'm seeing it more often." The answer is yes. I am a writer choosing to take responsibility of the publication of my book.
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The "Indie Author News" posted this as a response. For the full article, click on the "Local Authors" photograph to your left. The entire post is valuable information and clearly defines this word "indie" better than I could. I hope you'll pop over to read more. If you are an Indie Author, there are resources here for you too.


What is an Indie Author?
This Blog defines an Indie Author as an Independent Writer who chooses to be an Indie Author.  
Choice and Independence are characterized by...
  • controlling the Content of the author's work
  • controlling the Cover Design
  • assigning the Title of the work
  • controlling the Copyright of the work
  • controlling the work's Release Date
  • determining the Sales Price (...or even give the work away for free)
  • controlling the Typesetting and Design of the work
  • hiring (and firing) Editor, Cover Designer, Printer
  • selecting the Sales and Distribution Channels
  • controlling the Marketing for the work
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One reason I chose to self-publish my book and join the ranks of other Indie writers like those below, was the ability to choose the announcement and release dates. I come from a family of people celebrating life.

My submission to traditional publishers lasted a little over a year but after a lot of prayer and feedback, I decided to self-publish because my desired release date was approaching. I announced to the public of the book's publication on my birthday, August 12th.

I revealed the cover a month later, on September 14th, this is my sister's birthday. And the book releases to the public on April 3rd, 2013 - on the 19th anniversary of my sister's kidnapping. Instead of a day of sadness and loss, we will remember and honor Heidi with book signings and release parties for Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey.
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I was raised with a strong work ethic and determination to finish what we start. I've heard, "Anyone can self-publish." This is a true statement but there are many who have yet to publish because they aren't willing to do the work required to self-publish.

I've seen some self-published books that scream, "I published it myself because no one else would." but the majority of Indie authors today have dedicated their life and time to making their book(s) similar to those published by traditional publishing houses. To do this right, requires time, talent, and know-how.

Not everyone is cut out or ready to join the ranks of Indie author. The authors below, myself included, dedicate large amounts of time, money, and heart to make our books the best they can be. We hire editors, organize a lot of the marketing ourselves, and look to others for knowledge and pointers.

Some of my author friends with traditional publishers are doing the same things as me but their splitting the profits with their agents, publishers, and bookstores. Whether you publish through a traditional publisher or self-publish -- be ready to work. No one will do it for you.

Please don't misunderstand, I have nothing against traditional publishing. I would be happy dancing all over town if I accepted any of the offers that were extended to me yet I wanted the book to release on April 3 in memory of my sister. I want to be able to speak where and when I want, for a love offering, if that is the case. These were options some of the contracts blocked.

I hope this post helps you to understand and respect the rank of Indie Authors in the world today...most strive to give you the best book they can! Visit some other fabulous Indie Authors by clicking on the links below...

Are you glad we chose to self-publish and release on April 3?

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T.O.P.'s Tuesday ~ Mystery Book Signing Clue #2

3/12/2013

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It’s hard to believe the release of Where’s Heidi? One Sister’s Journey releases in less than a month. The first draft spilled from my heart and mind to my computer in September, 2006. Since then, it has been opened and closed more times than I can count until God grabbed a hold of my heart in 2010 to finish. In truth, it was the beginning. Emotional vomit started to transform into something worth reading.

My book shares Heidi’s kidnapping, and how the loss of my only sister affected my life and how I felt towards my family and God. God never left me but I turned my back on Him because I blamed Him for taking Heidi. I was wrong. Rats! Now I need to ask for forgiveness. Once I did, the healing began.
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I’m thankful Heidi and I had a close relationship. Every Thursday was our “sister day”. Regardless of our work schedules or her classes, we always did something together. It was a day I looked forward to, and so did she. The irony of this day, the first time I stood before a group of women to share my testimony – was a Wednesday evening. Isn’t God cool, I think so.

Sometimes, due to our work schedules, sister day was spent at the 
D & W while she worked. It didn’t matter the location, it was the time spent together that made our memories so precious. The very place Heidi and I shared both laughter and serious conversations, is the very place tragedy stole her from our lives and community.

There are people and places from those initial hours and days I remember but most of them, forgotten. Some of these places though are forever etched in my mind as my home away from home after Heidi disappeared.

Are you noticing a pattern?

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Moving Forward In Faith

3/11/2013

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An aspect of publishing many aren't aware of, at least for the Christian author, is satan's attacks as the release date of your book approaches. Friends and fellow authors/editors shared this truth with me at the beginning of this journey. I started praying for protection, provision, health, and safety for my family more than two years ago. Yet the true understanding of what they've described only started to reveal itself last month and into this month.

Little things have fell in the way yet God is quick to answer prayer and these obstacles moved out of the way. This past month though, has been a whirlwind. At times, taking the breath from my lungs and the gusto from my motivation. I continue to pray for protection, safety, health, and provision for my family -- and there are others joining me in prayer, thank you very much. I know God is listening and answering.

Some ask, "How can I pray for you?" My response is usually a broad answer - for everything to come together, for us to be healthy, for those who read the book, and of course for Heidi. As we move into the final weeks leading up to the release, my prayers are more specific. God is stronger and mightier so I trust Him with my requests.

This is not meant as a "woe is me" or as a self-seeking share. One thing I have learned, satan hits us where it hurts the most. I will not let lies, deception, and satan's attacks stop the release of this book ~ God ignited this story from the depths of my heart to the book it now is. In His name, I pray as I put on the mighty armor of God. My family will be healthy and healed. The bills will be paid. The darkness is lifted and only Light is welcome in this home and our life.

The decade following Heidi's disappearance I hid in the darkness and let the fears, anger, and hurt build up. Not anymore - today I stand in victory at the foot of the cross. May God be glorified as He answers the prayers on my heart today and in the days leading up to April 3rd. God is good...all the time...God is good!!
"Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power.

Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 

Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. 

And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people. Pray also for me, that whenever I speak, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains. Pray that I may declare it fearlessly, as I should."
Ephesians 6:10-20

I'm reinforcing, cleaning, tightening, and shining up my armor.
~ Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey releases April 3, 2013 ~
Everyone deserves to know there is hope & healing after loss.

Is this something you can relate to? Will you share?

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