Keeping it Real...One Sister's JourneyMy name is Lisa Buske and I enjoy sharing my faith, hope, and laughter with those I meet ~ whether it's here on my blog, my podcast, or in person. Life is a gift and we have the opportunity and blessing to enjoy it. May you find the encouragement, hope, and connection here.
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Happy Monday everyone! A couple weeks ago I was invited by author Alyshia Hull to "guest blog" on her website this past week. Due to prior obligations and life I wasn't able to but I finished my post yesterday and emailed it to her. She posted it last night. I hope you'll pop over (click on either photo) and read my blog, on her blog. My topic assignment: "A Writer’s Challenges Aren’t Bound by Age" - the student giving the teacher an assignment, isn't this wonderful? I love it...I'm also guest blogging at "A Mags Moment", my daughter's blog later this week. I feel like such a teenager - loving every minute of it. http://alyshiahullauthor.weebly.com/3/post/2013/09/a-writers-challenges-arent-bound-by-age-lisa-buske.html  Last Farmer's Market in New Haven is TODAY!! Copies of Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey When the Waves Subside: There is Hope Encourage Others: One Day at a Time will be available. 4 p.m. - 7 p.m. State Route 104 in the center of town, in front of the Town Hall/Highway Dept. Be sure to visit Alyshia's website to read today's blog!
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As I prayed, studied, and prepared for this final blog of the series a truth stood out to me ~ a truth you either already knew and were waiting for or one you started to realize also…one type of health doesn’t exist without the other. They are woven in and through each other beautifully. When we have all three in sync with each other and God, hold on to your seat because I believe this is when we join God on the mission, trip, path, or life He has been waiting to bless us with.
To think about one’s emotional health I found myself thinking of people I believe are healthy and have it all together, some of which, I find myself saying “In spite of “x”, they are doing so good.” And then I think of myself.
Rewind to 1994 through 2004, the months and first decade following Heidi’s kidnapping. Most people thought I had it together yet once I walked behind the security of my own home…the broken, depressed, and miserable woman I was reared its ugly head and attitude.
Side note: How come we share our worst and ugliest moments with the people we love the most? It makes no sense, maybe it’s because we know they love us regardless and won’t leave us because they remember who we were before and/or can see the direction we are heading. Just a thought.
Now don’t get me wrong, not every waking minute was spend crying my eyes out. There are happy memories during these times too yet the dark times outweigh them all. The greatest joy and blessing God has given me happened during my darkest years. This joy is one of the reasons I started to laugh and see the good in the world again. This blessing brought smiles, hope, and something so powerfully positive to our family.
God replaced our loss with new life, the birth of my daughter. She was the first piece of true happiness I felt in years. Mags was evidence of God’s love for me and our family. I still remember the smile on my parents’ faces when they saw and held her – no masks that day, only joy and hope for a future and a new beginning.
Why do I share this with you? Simple, I want you to think of the people in your circle of life. Is there a family or person in particular you find yourself thinking of because they’ve experienced such great hardship, loss, or tragedy? Do you ask yourself, “How do they do it? They look so happy.” I want to challenge you – are they happy or are they joyful? There is a different. This is where our emotional health comes into play.
I was happy throughout the darkest years of my life yet there was no joy until my pregnancy with our daughter. I was happy for my friends’ accomplishments, bonds with their siblings, and their friendships but behind the smile was envy for the milestones Heidi wouldn’t reach, the sister days we were missing, and the forever friendship of my sister into my adult years Heidi’s kidnappers took from me.
I laughed and made light of most things in life but went home to have childish temper tantrums that would put a two year old to shame because of the inner turmoil.
My emotional health was way out of whack even though to my coworkers, community, and even most of friends…I appeared okay.
To think about one’s emotional health I found myself thinking of people I believe are healthy and have it all together, some of which, I find myself saying “In spite of “x”, they are doing so good.” And then I think of myself.
Rewind to 1994 through 2004, the months and first decade following Heidi’s kidnapping. Most people thought I had it together yet once I walked behind the security of my own home…the broken, depressed, and miserable woman I was reared its ugly head and attitude.
Side note: How come we share our worst and ugliest moments with the people we love the most? It makes no sense, maybe it’s because we know they love us regardless and won’t leave us because they remember who we were before and/or can see the direction we are heading. Just a thought.
Now don’t get me wrong, not every waking minute was spend crying my eyes out. There are happy memories during these times too yet the dark times outweigh them all. The greatest joy and blessing God has given me happened during my darkest years. This joy is one of the reasons I started to laugh and see the good in the world again. This blessing brought smiles, hope, and something so powerfully positive to our family.
God replaced our loss with new life, the birth of my daughter. She was the first piece of true happiness I felt in years. Mags was evidence of God’s love for me and our family. I still remember the smile on my parents’ faces when they saw and held her – no masks that day, only joy and hope for a future and a new beginning.
Why do I share this with you? Simple, I want you to think of the people in your circle of life. Is there a family or person in particular you find yourself thinking of because they’ve experienced such great hardship, loss, or tragedy? Do you ask yourself, “How do they do it? They look so happy.” I want to challenge you – are they happy or are they joyful? There is a different. This is where our emotional health comes into play.
I was happy throughout the darkest years of my life yet there was no joy until my pregnancy with our daughter. I was happy for my friends’ accomplishments, bonds with their siblings, and their friendships but behind the smile was envy for the milestones Heidi wouldn’t reach, the sister days we were missing, and the forever friendship of my sister into my adult years Heidi’s kidnappers took from me.
I laughed and made light of most things in life but went home to have childish temper tantrums that would put a two year old to shame because of the inner turmoil.
My emotional health was way out of whack even though to my coworkers, community, and even most of friends…I appeared okay.
I tried to think of a visual to show the difference between being emotionally healthy versus the alternative. I want you to think of the prettiest crown you’ve ever seen. Does it sparkle with rare and exotic gems? Is it unique? Does the silver or gold reflect light? Do the gems create a rainbow on the wall across the room when the Son shines on it? This is an example of a healthy person – so full of life and the love of God that they radiate it wherever they might travel.
An unhealthy person wears a crown of darkness and despair. Their crown might have broken stems and missing jewels. It may have scratches and dings from being beaten and abused. Dirt might smother its ability to reflect light. Sadly, it might even be so hurt, abused, neglected, and grief-stricken that no one even noticed it fell off the shelf and is lying on
the floor in the back of the closet.
Thankfully, the light within the gems and jewels is still there. The dirt can be washed away. The dings and bruises will heal. The grief can be replaced with love. The anger and resentment smothered by forgiveness, one only found through a relationship with Jesus. God sent His Only Son to earth as a babe knowing He would allow Him to die a death on the cross for our sins.
Why did God let this happen? Why did Jesus let this happen? Simple – God loves us so much that He overcame the world as a testimony to you and me.
Regardless of life’s challenges, there is hope. I encourage you to get healthy. As you develop your spiritual and physical health, trusting God…a super strong faith and emotional health is sure to follow. Not only does God wipe away every tear, He sent Jesus to restore your crown.
An unhealthy person wears a crown of darkness and despair. Their crown might have broken stems and missing jewels. It may have scratches and dings from being beaten and abused. Dirt might smother its ability to reflect light. Sadly, it might even be so hurt, abused, neglected, and grief-stricken that no one even noticed it fell off the shelf and is lying on
the floor in the back of the closet.
Thankfully, the light within the gems and jewels is still there. The dirt can be washed away. The dings and bruises will heal. The grief can be replaced with love. The anger and resentment smothered by forgiveness, one only found through a relationship with Jesus. God sent His Only Son to earth as a babe knowing He would allow Him to die a death on the cross for our sins.
Why did God let this happen? Why did Jesus let this happen? Simple – God loves us so much that He overcame the world as a testimony to you and me.
Regardless of life’s challenges, there is hope. I encourage you to get healthy. As you develop your spiritual and physical health, trusting God…a super strong faith and emotional health is sure to follow. Not only does God wipe away every tear, He sent Jesus to restore your crown.
Brush off the dirt of life & polish
it with the love of Jesus.
Have a great day!
Flashback to September 2010 - An Unedited Blog Blast from the Past
Hello Everyone! Thanks for visiting my blog. I am so thankful for a God that lifts us up when we are feeling down. My previous post came from deep within my heart - I received a few emails and had a couple people stop to share words of encouragement or words of "I don't what to say" with me yesterday. I was told it was a depressing post and some weren't sure why I had posted it. While others thanked me for sharing the good, bad and the ugly!
I honestly thought about whether to post or not the other day for these same reasons. I didn't want to depress anyone yet I wanted you all to know that life isn't always easy. I have friends that have lost loved ones (parents & siblings) to cancer, disease and old age so I know they experience similar sadness in attending the milestone events of other friends and family. I don't believe my feelings are unique yet at the same time they are.
When we lose someone to death - we know where they are. If you have lost someone to kidnapping or abduction - unless the body or person is recovered - we never know. We can presume...but we don't know for sure. I had been praying for God's guidance to finish the revisions of my current chapter - He is so faithful and came through.
A couple of my critiques and comments were to keep the grief and intensity in the beginning because I wasn't who I am today during the time I'm writing about at the beginning of the book. This is so true but I was having a hard time finding that deep sorrow and sense of loss - until the wedding.
Don't get me wrong - I'm not walking around wallowing in grief and depression. I'm celebrating my sisters - sisters in Christ, sisters by marriage and the beauty of life's journey. Yet because of the perspective God placed on my heart during the
service - HE found that emotion needed to wrap up the next chapter's revision!
Thank you Jesus! He always knows what we need, when we need it. I apologize if you thought the previous posting was too much. I only want each of you to travel this journey with me. There are days that revising and writing break my heart. There are days I can't formulate the words and sentences needed to finish. So God finds the triggers in life to stimulate my creative genious, the gift He has given me to share and help others.
Most of my post have been filled with sunshine and roses but that isn't always the life one lives when they wake up each morning not knowing where their loved one is...are they alive or dead? I write to help others and in the process...God is helping me grieve and heal through aspects I hadn't yet dealt with. (and I thought I had)
Psalm 8
O LORD, our Lord, how majestic is your name in all the earth! You have set your glory above the heavens. From the lips of children and infants you have ordained praise because of your enemies, to silence the foe and the avenger. When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is man that you are mindful of him, the son of man that you care for him? You made him a little lower than the heavenly beings and crowned him with glory and honor. You made him ruler over the works of your hands; you put everything under his feet: all flocks and herds, and the beasts of the field, the birds of the air, and the fish of the sea, all that swim the paths of the seas. O LORD, our Lord, how majestic is your name in all the earth!
Hello Everyone! Thanks for visiting my blog. I am so thankful for a God that lifts us up when we are feeling down. My previous post came from deep within my heart - I received a few emails and had a couple people stop to share words of encouragement or words of "I don't what to say" with me yesterday. I was told it was a depressing post and some weren't sure why I had posted it. While others thanked me for sharing the good, bad and the ugly!
I honestly thought about whether to post or not the other day for these same reasons. I didn't want to depress anyone yet I wanted you all to know that life isn't always easy. I have friends that have lost loved ones (parents & siblings) to cancer, disease and old age so I know they experience similar sadness in attending the milestone events of other friends and family. I don't believe my feelings are unique yet at the same time they are.
When we lose someone to death - we know where they are. If you have lost someone to kidnapping or abduction - unless the body or person is recovered - we never know. We can presume...but we don't know for sure. I had been praying for God's guidance to finish the revisions of my current chapter - He is so faithful and came through.
A couple of my critiques and comments were to keep the grief and intensity in the beginning because I wasn't who I am today during the time I'm writing about at the beginning of the book. This is so true but I was having a hard time finding that deep sorrow and sense of loss - until the wedding.
Don't get me wrong - I'm not walking around wallowing in grief and depression. I'm celebrating my sisters - sisters in Christ, sisters by marriage and the beauty of life's journey. Yet because of the perspective God placed on my heart during the
service - HE found that emotion needed to wrap up the next chapter's revision!
Thank you Jesus! He always knows what we need, when we need it. I apologize if you thought the previous posting was too much. I only want each of you to travel this journey with me. There are days that revising and writing break my heart. There are days I can't formulate the words and sentences needed to finish. So God finds the triggers in life to stimulate my creative genious, the gift He has given me to share and help others.
Most of my post have been filled with sunshine and roses but that isn't always the life one lives when they wake up each morning not knowing where their loved one is...are they alive or dead? I write to help others and in the process...God is helping me grieve and heal through aspects I hadn't yet dealt with. (and I thought I had)
Psalm 8
O LORD, our Lord, how majestic is your name in all the earth! You have set your glory above the heavens. From the lips of children and infants you have ordained praise because of your enemies, to silence the foe and the avenger. When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is man that you are mindful of him, the son of man that you care for him? You made him a little lower than the heavenly beings and crowned him with glory and honor. You made him ruler over the works of your hands; you put everything under his feet: all flocks and herds, and the beasts of the field, the birds of the air, and the fish of the sea, all that swim the paths of the seas. O LORD, our Lord, how majestic is your name in all the earth!
What stands out to you after reading this blog, compared to recent ones? Please share below...
You Can Count On Me
1, 3, 5, 7, 9...I love that sister of mine
2, 4, 6, 8, 10...Always hope to see her again
1, 3, 5, 7...it might not be until heaven
2, 4, 6, 8...but I'm strong enough to wait
1,3,5...thankful to be alive
2,4,6...her friendship is one of my favorite picks
1,3...sisters and friends we'll forever be
2,4...I couldn't have loved her more
1...this little poem is done
2...I wrote it just for you.
~ Lisa M Buske, 9/23/13 ~
1, 3, 5, 7, 9...I love that sister of mine
2, 4, 6, 8, 10...Always hope to see her again
1, 3, 5, 7...it might not be until heaven
2, 4, 6, 8...but I'm strong enough to wait
1,3,5...thankful to be alive
2,4,6...her friendship is one of my favorite picks
1,3...sisters and friends we'll forever be
2,4...I couldn't have loved her more
1...this little poem is done
2...I wrote it just for you.
~ Lisa M Buske, 9/23/13 ~
Who can YOU count on when you need a pick me up?
This month has moved quite swiftly, don't you agree? I love how quickly returning to the routine of going to school each day is. As most of you know I am working for the same school district but in a new building this year. I was nervous prior to the first day of school because of the unknown. I want to tell you, a mere three weeks in, and I'M LOVING IT!
Change is not always a bad thing. Change can be scary, stressful, and sometimes even dreaded yet when we accept the change and move forward with it, instead of fighting it ~ only wonderful things can result. The teacher I'm working with has been a friend for years, and was a dear friend to my sister too. This helped my transition because I knew who I would be working with outside of the classroom so we just needed to figure each other out as educators for a cohesive classroom.
I figured it would take a couple weeks, I'm happy to say I was wrong. After a couple days, the laughter and finishing each other's projects and thoughts began. It has been a joyful, fun, and amazing few weeks. I look forward to the year ahead. Not only am I making oodles of new friends, meeting new families, and enjoying being "in town" daily ~ I cherish the time spent getting to know a friend a lot better. She has already been such an encouragement to me, more than she might know.
Change is not always a bad thing. Change can be scary, stressful, and sometimes even dreaded yet when we accept the change and move forward with it, instead of fighting it ~ only wonderful things can result. The teacher I'm working with has been a friend for years, and was a dear friend to my sister too. This helped my transition because I knew who I would be working with outside of the classroom so we just needed to figure each other out as educators for a cohesive classroom.
I figured it would take a couple weeks, I'm happy to say I was wrong. After a couple days, the laughter and finishing each other's projects and thoughts began. It has been a joyful, fun, and amazing few weeks. I look forward to the year ahead. Not only am I making oodles of new friends, meeting new families, and enjoying being "in town" daily ~ I cherish the time spent getting to know a friend a lot better. She has already been such an encouragement to me, more than she might know.
As I reflect on the past few weeks I am grateful for much. In some respects, the drive to school with Mags as company and my new school family greeting me each day has toughened me up. It has been an emotional month.
Thanks to the change I've enjoyed conversation about high school, life, and girl talk each morning on the way to school instead of shedding tears. On the days prior to Heidi's birthday, instead of grieving the day to come, I shared memories and highlights of things to come with my family and friends.
I found myself missing my Gram and Aunt Nancy more than normal this month. I'm not sure why, maybe it was reading some of my aunt's notes in preparation for a community event (which we didn't make it to due to being sick), or because we've been going through pictures again for upcoming blogs. Whatever the reason, I'm thankful for the memories. My book, Encourage Others: One Day at a Time, is inspired by these two woman and their dedication to send cards, notes, and goodies to others on the special days in their lives. For more information on this book, click on the picture of my Gram and I above.
With less than a week left to enter for your chance to win a FREE book ~ be sure to enter. There are two ways to enter: 1) Write a review on Amazon.com for any (or all) of my three books. Each review enters you for a chance to win - so you could actually have 3 entries. 2) With your copy of any of my books, or with the cover showing on your Kindle - take a picture of you reading the book, the book displayed somewhere at your house or office, or whatever creative way you choose and then post the picture on the "Where's Heidi?" Facebook page. My parents are going to pick their favorite pic - so far, no one has entered so if you do it this week, the odds are in your favor.
Other than that - enjoy your family and friends, cherishing each memory. And don't forget there is another day like Heidi's birthday coming on the day double her birthdate. Hint, hint!
A woman who downloaded Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey posted this on the Where's Heidi? Facebook Page today: "I just wanted to thank you for the free kindle download of your book. I lost my little sister just over seven years ago. All though it was to domestic violence and not kidnapping it was still helpful to read about someone else who felt and
continues to feel the same feelings. Thank you Lisa and god bless you. I pray someday Heidi comes home to you and your family." E.L.B
Thanks to the change I've enjoyed conversation about high school, life, and girl talk each morning on the way to school instead of shedding tears. On the days prior to Heidi's birthday, instead of grieving the day to come, I shared memories and highlights of things to come with my family and friends.
I found myself missing my Gram and Aunt Nancy more than normal this month. I'm not sure why, maybe it was reading some of my aunt's notes in preparation for a community event (which we didn't make it to due to being sick), or because we've been going through pictures again for upcoming blogs. Whatever the reason, I'm thankful for the memories. My book, Encourage Others: One Day at a Time, is inspired by these two woman and their dedication to send cards, notes, and goodies to others on the special days in their lives. For more information on this book, click on the picture of my Gram and I above.
With less than a week left to enter for your chance to win a FREE book ~ be sure to enter. There are two ways to enter: 1) Write a review on Amazon.com for any (or all) of my three books. Each review enters you for a chance to win - so you could actually have 3 entries. 2) With your copy of any of my books, or with the cover showing on your Kindle - take a picture of you reading the book, the book displayed somewhere at your house or office, or whatever creative way you choose and then post the picture on the "Where's Heidi?" Facebook page. My parents are going to pick their favorite pic - so far, no one has entered so if you do it this week, the odds are in your favor.
Other than that - enjoy your family and friends, cherishing each memory. And don't forget there is another day like Heidi's birthday coming on the day double her birthdate. Hint, hint!
A woman who downloaded Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey posted this on the Where's Heidi? Facebook Page today: "I just wanted to thank you for the free kindle download of your book. I lost my little sister just over seven years ago. All though it was to domestic violence and not kidnapping it was still helpful to read about someone else who felt and
continues to feel the same feelings. Thank you Lisa and god bless you. I pray someday Heidi comes home to you and your family." E.L.B
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What is your favorite aspect of my blog? TOP's Tuesday?
I could write a formal introduction for Dr. Mary but I decided not to for a couple reasons. First, she isn't new to the blog and she is more than a doctor...she is my friend. Another reason, she might not be new to One Sister's Journey but you might be, so she deserves an introduction. Mary and I met the first time through my sister, Heidi M Allen. Only God knew the unexpected and different paths we would each travel from the halls of Bishop Cunningham and the volleyball court to today.
Our relationship started with Heidi as the common denominator yet transitioned years later, and even years after Heidi's abduction. My friend Laurie introduced me to Young Living Essential Oils. I started with Peppermint Essential Oil for my headaches, then Thieves Essential Oil to keep me healthy, and then the Ningxia Red Juice and so much more. I decided to sign up as a distributor so I could get these life changing products at a reduced cost. The more I experienced the benefits of them, the easier it was to share with others and I started to train under Dr. Mary's to be an active distributor.
I learned so much from Dr. Mary about the oils, health, wellness, business, and marketing. Many of these skills and organizational strategies I continue to incorporate in my writing and speaking because she trained me to be a successful business woman, not just a Young Living Essential Oil distributor. After a couple years though I felt God calling me to write and finish Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey. I explained this to Dr. Mary and she gave me her love, prayers, and support as I moved forward to reach this dream and help others.
It was during the mentorship our relationship transformed into friendship and this bond lasts today, even though we both are on different, yet similar journeys. I still use Young Living products daily and believe in them.
If you are interested, visit their website: https://www.youngliving.org/ If you decide these are products you are interested in to help with a healthier living, you can sign up as a "retail customer" or an "independent distributor". Can I ask you a favor, if you decide to sign up, would you enter #799780 as your sponsor ID? This will give me a little credit and a chance to earn some free product. I apologize if this promo offends anyone, this is never my intent, but thought I'd share in case someone is interested.
Even though I don't utilize my distributorship as a business, I maintain it so I can purchase my products at a reduced cost. Dr. Mary is the expert and go to person, she has a Facebook page too so people can access her knowledge and help live: https://www.facebook.com/TheTotalWellnessDocandMom
The greatest attribute of Mary is her heart. She consistently gives of herself to help others be the best woman, man, or child they can be. Initially when she mentored me with the essential oils, neither of us were believers. Since then, we've both realized the need for God in our lives and the relationship with Jesus that is necessary to get through the day. The last time we got together, to tape the video below -- we laughed, cried, and shared testimonies. God is so cool. Although walking in different directions, our lives were actually on a parallel path - something only God could orchestrate.
Please visit Dr. Mary's site to read her blog today:
Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey, When the Waves Subside: There is Hope, and Encourage Others: One Day at a Time. All 3 books are available through Amazon.com - Where's Heidi? and When the Waves Subside are also on Kindle for $4.99. Starting in October, the Kindle versions will be available at an even more reduced price when you purchase the print copy too, as part of Amazon's "Matchbook" program.
Our relationship started with Heidi as the common denominator yet transitioned years later, and even years after Heidi's abduction. My friend Laurie introduced me to Young Living Essential Oils. I started with Peppermint Essential Oil for my headaches, then Thieves Essential Oil to keep me healthy, and then the Ningxia Red Juice and so much more. I decided to sign up as a distributor so I could get these life changing products at a reduced cost. The more I experienced the benefits of them, the easier it was to share with others and I started to train under Dr. Mary's to be an active distributor.
I learned so much from Dr. Mary about the oils, health, wellness, business, and marketing. Many of these skills and organizational strategies I continue to incorporate in my writing and speaking because she trained me to be a successful business woman, not just a Young Living Essential Oil distributor. After a couple years though I felt God calling me to write and finish Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey. I explained this to Dr. Mary and she gave me her love, prayers, and support as I moved forward to reach this dream and help others.
It was during the mentorship our relationship transformed into friendship and this bond lasts today, even though we both are on different, yet similar journeys. I still use Young Living products daily and believe in them.
If you are interested, visit their website: https://www.youngliving.org/ If you decide these are products you are interested in to help with a healthier living, you can sign up as a "retail customer" or an "independent distributor". Can I ask you a favor, if you decide to sign up, would you enter #799780 as your sponsor ID? This will give me a little credit and a chance to earn some free product. I apologize if this promo offends anyone, this is never my intent, but thought I'd share in case someone is interested.
Even though I don't utilize my distributorship as a business, I maintain it so I can purchase my products at a reduced cost. Dr. Mary is the expert and go to person, she has a Facebook page too so people can access her knowledge and help live: https://www.facebook.com/TheTotalWellnessDocandMom
The greatest attribute of Mary is her heart. She consistently gives of herself to help others be the best woman, man, or child they can be. Initially when she mentored me with the essential oils, neither of us were believers. Since then, we've both realized the need for God in our lives and the relationship with Jesus that is necessary to get through the day. The last time we got together, to tape the video below -- we laughed, cried, and shared testimonies. God is so cool. Although walking in different directions, our lives were actually on a parallel path - something only God could orchestrate.
Please visit Dr. Mary's site to read her blog today:
Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey, When the Waves Subside: There is Hope, and Encourage Others: One Day at a Time. All 3 books are available through Amazon.com - Where's Heidi? and When the Waves Subside are also on Kindle for $4.99. Starting in October, the Kindle versions will be available at an even more reduced price when you purchase the print copy too, as part of Amazon's "Matchbook" program.
Dr. Mary Starr is a Chiropractor and Essential oil Expert. For more than a decade she has helped women and children find better health naturally. She specializes in Nutrition and Essential oils and has helped thousands improve or regain their health with simple solutions.
In 2005 she retired from a full time practice and created a portable business allowing her to travel all over the United States sharing about Nature's healing medicine Young Living Essential Oils. Today she works with more than 40 Part time and Full time associates who serve over 3000 clients across the world.
At 35 she had her first son Joshua and transitioned her portable business to her home and online. In 2011 she became a Mommy Blogger and shares her expertise in natural health, weight loss, stress relief and the highs and lows of parenthood in her bi-weekly newsletter and blogs. Because she has worked with women, moms, and children for over a decade and has struggled with her own issues of infertility, food allergies, and weight management you will find the blogs and content on her website down to earth and filled with hope.
She is happily married to Jay Carter a genius, and owner of http://www.starrhost.com who loves her failed attempts at making the perfect healthy cookie and lets her win in tennis.
To visit Dr. Mary's site: click on the photo of she and I through the video camera
To read Dr. Mary's first blog about Where's Heidi?: Click on the top photo of us
To read today's blog - Click on the Where's Heidi? cover photo or copy and paste this link:
In 2005 she retired from a full time practice and created a portable business allowing her to travel all over the United States sharing about Nature's healing medicine Young Living Essential Oils. Today she works with more than 40 Part time and Full time associates who serve over 3000 clients across the world.
At 35 she had her first son Joshua and transitioned her portable business to her home and online. In 2011 she became a Mommy Blogger and shares her expertise in natural health, weight loss, stress relief and the highs and lows of parenthood in her bi-weekly newsletter and blogs. Because she has worked with women, moms, and children for over a decade and has struggled with her own issues of infertility, food allergies, and weight management you will find the blogs and content on her website down to earth and filled with hope.
She is happily married to Jay Carter a genius, and owner of http://www.starrhost.com who loves her failed attempts at making the perfect healthy cookie and lets her win in tennis.
To visit Dr. Mary's site: click on the photo of she and I through the video camera
To read Dr. Mary's first blog about Where's Heidi?: Click on the top photo of us
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Yesterday we talked about our physical health and three things necessary to be physically fit, things we need in our toolbox to be successful – an accountability partner, a determined heart and mind, and an ability to persevere. Today I want to build from these aspects of physical health & their relationship to our spiritual health.
First and foremost, “What do I mean by ‘spiritual health’?” If our physical health is about the health and wellbeing of our body then our spiritual health logically focuses on our heart and soul. The inner part of us that strengthens and fuels our motivation and ability to model Christ-like behaviors, thoughts, and living.
“Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.” 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
Have you ever stopped to think about this fact? Not only did God create the world and all in it, He created you and me! Psalm 139 tells us how God not only formed us in our mother’s wombs but did so that we are each unique. This is a miracle in itself.
My sister and I were similar yet very different. My husband has seven siblings – each very different. I find this to be so cool, don’t you?
So don’t question why you are the way you are, instead thank God that there is no one else like you and you have a purpose and mission in this life, unique to you and your situations. This is exciting stuff! Then to make things even better, when we acknowledge God and invite Him to be a part of our life, the Holy Spirit replaces our Jiminy Cricket of the world. We now have the Spirit of God living within us.
If God dwells in our heart, then shouldn’t we desire and strive to maintain our spiritual health? Of course we should. This is not always easy yet it’s possible. Here are three steps to help us be successful in keeping our hearts clean, pure, and most important…healthy.
“…train yourself to be godly. For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.”
1 Timothy 4:7b – 8
First and foremost, “What do I mean by ‘spiritual health’?” If our physical health is about the health and wellbeing of our body then our spiritual health logically focuses on our heart and soul. The inner part of us that strengthens and fuels our motivation and ability to model Christ-like behaviors, thoughts, and living.
“Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.” 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
Have you ever stopped to think about this fact? Not only did God create the world and all in it, He created you and me! Psalm 139 tells us how God not only formed us in our mother’s wombs but did so that we are each unique. This is a miracle in itself.
My sister and I were similar yet very different. My husband has seven siblings – each very different. I find this to be so cool, don’t you?
So don’t question why you are the way you are, instead thank God that there is no one else like you and you have a purpose and mission in this life, unique to you and your situations. This is exciting stuff! Then to make things even better, when we acknowledge God and invite Him to be a part of our life, the Holy Spirit replaces our Jiminy Cricket of the world. We now have the Spirit of God living within us.
If God dwells in our heart, then shouldn’t we desire and strive to maintain our spiritual health? Of course we should. This is not always easy yet it’s possible. Here are three steps to help us be successful in keeping our hearts clean, pure, and most important…healthy.
“…train yourself to be godly. For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.”
1 Timothy 4:7b – 8
1st: STAY CONNECTED to your Accountability Partner
This isn’t necessarily the same person you count on for your physical health, but then again, sometimes it is. This person is the one you go to when your faith is struggling, for spiritual guidance. It’s also the same one God uses to call you out on the hard things in life you might not want to deal with, like the sin and poor choices you might be making.
God is the Ultimate Accountability Partner but since we don’t always listen, He uses other people in our life to deliver His rebuke, encouragement, message or whatever it is we need to keep moving forward. In order to make good choices and recognize where God is leading you, you need to be listening for His voice. The only way you can do this is to carve out time in your schedule to stop, listen, and learn. Turn the television, phone, and computer off in order to keep your connection with God the strongest one in your life.
Do you know what the fancy word for staying connected is...PRAYER…and all prayer is…is talking and listening to God.
This isn’t necessarily the same person you count on for your physical health, but then again, sometimes it is. This person is the one you go to when your faith is struggling, for spiritual guidance. It’s also the same one God uses to call you out on the hard things in life you might not want to deal with, like the sin and poor choices you might be making.
God is the Ultimate Accountability Partner but since we don’t always listen, He uses other people in our life to deliver His rebuke, encouragement, message or whatever it is we need to keep moving forward. In order to make good choices and recognize where God is leading you, you need to be listening for His voice. The only way you can do this is to carve out time in your schedule to stop, listen, and learn. Turn the television, phone, and computer off in order to keep your connection with God the strongest one in your life.
Do you know what the fancy word for staying connected is...PRAYER…and all prayer is…is talking and listening to God.
2nd: READ DAILY to fuel your ability to persevere
So now you have set time aside at least once a day, if not throughout the day to talk with God and listen for His direction.
Your connection is there, but is the lines clear? How do you decipher if the thoughts you have are your own, God’s, or of the enemy? What Book do you think you need to read to help you with this?
If you answered, “The BIBLE!” then you are closer than you might have thought to a healthy spiritual life. The Bible is God’s Word – His words for us. When we read the Bible daily, we are able to discern Truth from the lies we “hear” in our thought processes.
You can start in Genesis and read through Revelation each year, read the book or verses you need to help you through the day after looking up a topic in the concordance, or simply open the Bible and start reading. We don’t want to be reading the Bible “to get something out of it” yet at the same time, I know when I started to read mine – this was the only way I knew how or that kept my attention. This summer I found a Chronological Bible at a lawn sale for $.50 and this is helping me to read through the Bible versus reading with the purpose to get something out of it. One thing I do know is this, when thoughts cross my mind and I’m unsure if it something God is asking of me or if it’s something of the opposite – I will go to my concordance and look up whatever it is in a few spots to make sure I’m not reading more into a thought. Often, it is my own pride or goals. Be sure to keep yourself in check and when in doubt, compare it to the One Book, and God, that doesn’t lie.
So now you have set time aside at least once a day, if not throughout the day to talk with God and listen for His direction.
Your connection is there, but is the lines clear? How do you decipher if the thoughts you have are your own, God’s, or of the enemy? What Book do you think you need to read to help you with this?
If you answered, “The BIBLE!” then you are closer than you might have thought to a healthy spiritual life. The Bible is God’s Word – His words for us. When we read the Bible daily, we are able to discern Truth from the lies we “hear” in our thought processes.
You can start in Genesis and read through Revelation each year, read the book or verses you need to help you through the day after looking up a topic in the concordance, or simply open the Bible and start reading. We don’t want to be reading the Bible “to get something out of it” yet at the same time, I know when I started to read mine – this was the only way I knew how or that kept my attention. This summer I found a Chronological Bible at a lawn sale for $.50 and this is helping me to read through the Bible versus reading with the purpose to get something out of it. One thing I do know is this, when thoughts cross my mind and I’m unsure if it something God is asking of me or if it’s something of the opposite – I will go to my concordance and look up whatever it is in a few spots to make sure I’m not reading more into a thought. Often, it is my own pride or goals. Be sure to keep yourself in check and when in doubt, compare it to the One Book, and God, that doesn’t lie.
3rd: Worship & Fellowship strengthen your ability to persevere “Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.” 3 John 2
A third way you can ensure a healthy and happy heart is to never give up on meeting together. We all face times when we don’t want to gather with others, especially joyful Christians worshipping the Lord BUT these are the times we need to be there the most. My goodness, this morning I awoke early with anticipation for church but as I started puttering around the house and sipping my coffee I thought, “It would be nice to call it a jammy day.”
I told my husband and as soon as I said the words aloud I knew deep in my heart that I HAD to get to church. I’ve come to learn the times when I really want to stay home are the days I need to be there the most. Today was no different, Mike Shea preached from the pulpit this morning and as I listened thought, “Thank you God”, because Mike was touching on some of the same things I’m working through for this series. I love it when that happens. If I stayed home, I would of wasted time for the words, verses, or ideas to pull it all together.
God is faithful and He deserves our time, praise, and thanksgiving. There is ALWAYS SOMETHING TO BE THANKFUL for! Some days, weeks, months, and even years might be more difficult to see the Light yet when we incorporate prayer, reading our Bible and gathering with others who believe in God and the Truth of the Bible – health is the only possibility.
I encourage you on the days when you think “I can’t do this anymore”, instead of sharing this frustration with your friend or diary – pick up your Bible and read as you fall on your knees to communicate with the One who will NEVER LET YOU DOWN or leave you.
You are never alone and the greatest of health issues you will face in life is not disease but one of hopeless heart. Don’t lose hope – Hope is eternal! If you don’t believe me, read, Where’s Heidi? One Sister’s Journey. I gave up on God; He didn’t give up on me. It is never too late. Never isn’t a word in God’s dictionary. Click on any photo for a link to Amazon to purchase your copy.
A third way you can ensure a healthy and happy heart is to never give up on meeting together. We all face times when we don’t want to gather with others, especially joyful Christians worshipping the Lord BUT these are the times we need to be there the most. My goodness, this morning I awoke early with anticipation for church but as I started puttering around the house and sipping my coffee I thought, “It would be nice to call it a jammy day.”
I told my husband and as soon as I said the words aloud I knew deep in my heart that I HAD to get to church. I’ve come to learn the times when I really want to stay home are the days I need to be there the most. Today was no different, Mike Shea preached from the pulpit this morning and as I listened thought, “Thank you God”, because Mike was touching on some of the same things I’m working through for this series. I love it when that happens. If I stayed home, I would of wasted time for the words, verses, or ideas to pull it all together.
God is faithful and He deserves our time, praise, and thanksgiving. There is ALWAYS SOMETHING TO BE THANKFUL for! Some days, weeks, months, and even years might be more difficult to see the Light yet when we incorporate prayer, reading our Bible and gathering with others who believe in God and the Truth of the Bible – health is the only possibility.
I encourage you on the days when you think “I can’t do this anymore”, instead of sharing this frustration with your friend or diary – pick up your Bible and read as you fall on your knees to communicate with the One who will NEVER LET YOU DOWN or leave you.
You are never alone and the greatest of health issues you will face in life is not disease but one of hopeless heart. Don’t lose hope – Hope is eternal! If you don’t believe me, read, Where’s Heidi? One Sister’s Journey. I gave up on God; He didn’t give up on me. It is never too late. Never isn’t a word in God’s dictionary. Click on any photo for a link to Amazon to purchase your copy.
Above all else, guard your heart,
for it is the wellspring of life.
Proverbs 4:23
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In life we have various aspects of our health we need to give proper attention to. There are three, did you know that? I must admit, until about 2004, I wasn’t aware we not only need to take care of our physical and emotional health, there is something called our spiritual health and wellbeing, who knew? Not me, but now that I do, they are physical, emotional, and spiritual. This is the first of a three part series, focusing on our health. Today we will discuss our physical health, tomorrow our spiritual health, and conclude with a blog on emotional health later next week.
This morning I joined over two hundred people in the heart of Mexico, Mexico, New York that is for the annual 5K Cider Run/Walk. Although this was the 23rd time our community came together for this event, it was my first time participating. Why now? Simple, a friend and I started walking this summer and one day while enjoying our daily walk, one of us said “We should do the 5K Cider Walk” in jest. Well…after a little discussion we decided this was both a good idea and great incentive to stay focused and on task with our daily walking routine.
I must say it worked. There were days to follow that we both said, “I don’t want to get out today” or “It’s too hot” or “It’s raining” but in the end, until school started anyway, we maintained our daily walk. Sometimes earlier in the morning before the kids woke up and our hubbies left for work and other times later at night after the sun started to set and the temperature dropped too. Yes, there are days we had to forego the walks because we are Mom’s and wives too but for the most part, we rocked it.
Do you know why we rocked it?
Here are the three basic reasons I think we succeeded and not only set a goal but also reached it. Are you ready?
This morning I joined over two hundred people in the heart of Mexico, Mexico, New York that is for the annual 5K Cider Run/Walk. Although this was the 23rd time our community came together for this event, it was my first time participating. Why now? Simple, a friend and I started walking this summer and one day while enjoying our daily walk, one of us said “We should do the 5K Cider Walk” in jest. Well…after a little discussion we decided this was both a good idea and great incentive to stay focused and on task with our daily walking routine.
I must say it worked. There were days to follow that we both said, “I don’t want to get out today” or “It’s too hot” or “It’s raining” but in the end, until school started anyway, we maintained our daily walk. Sometimes earlier in the morning before the kids woke up and our hubbies left for work and other times later at night after the sun started to set and the temperature dropped too. Yes, there are days we had to forego the walks because we are Mom’s and wives too but for the most part, we rocked it.
Do you know why we rocked it?
Here are the three basic reasons I think we succeeded and not only set a goal but also reached it. Are you ready?
1st: An Accountability Partners
I could not have accomplished the goal “To run in the annual 5K Cider Run/Walk” without these people. Who are they you ask? I must start within the walls of my own home – Ed and Mary! Without Ed and Mary helping with the jobs around the house, I wouldn’t have the extra hour or two to exercise daily. And of course, my walking buddy, Lisa. Without her texts, calls, and fun time of fellowship while we walk – I know I would have pulled the cover over my head many mornings rather than walk. Thank you all! (Thanks for taking our picture Kim!)
I could not have accomplished the goal “To run in the annual 5K Cider Run/Walk” without these people. Who are they you ask? I must start within the walls of my own home – Ed and Mary! Without Ed and Mary helping with the jobs around the house, I wouldn’t have the extra hour or two to exercise daily. And of course, my walking buddy, Lisa. Without her texts, calls, and fun time of fellowship while we walk – I know I would have pulled the cover over my head many mornings rather than walk. Thank you all! (Thanks for taking our picture Kim!)
2nd: A Determined Heart and Mind
To reach any goal, we need to be determined! Yet, some goals only require the mind to be involved. For me, to walk and now add the running, I need something more than “completing the walk” as a motivation. This is where my heart comes into play. As I finished the last mile solo with nothing but the wind and my own thoughts as company I found myself thinking of Heidi. My sister loved to run and always tried to get me to go with her. She would say, “It’s exhilarating, come on. You’ll like it once you try.” I never believed her but she was so right. I finished today’s 5K with thoughts of my sister flooding my heart and mind, then, they transitioned to the Rochester area where the family of Brian Sullivan and others joined Laurie Travis for the annual Ride for the Missing. Not only did I finish but I tried to run the last quarter a mile on the track to cross the finish line in memory of our missing and their families. The next goal is a half marathon in March. This one, I’ll run (or maybe walk) in memory of a friend, who is free from cancer and celebrating her life in heaven now.
(This photo is at mile marker 2 but I didn't have someone to take my picture so this is the best I could do. teehee Thanks Shelly, hope your timer started working again!)
To reach any goal, we need to be determined! Yet, some goals only require the mind to be involved. For me, to walk and now add the running, I need something more than “completing the walk” as a motivation. This is where my heart comes into play. As I finished the last mile solo with nothing but the wind and my own thoughts as company I found myself thinking of Heidi. My sister loved to run and always tried to get me to go with her. She would say, “It’s exhilarating, come on. You’ll like it once you try.” I never believed her but she was so right. I finished today’s 5K with thoughts of my sister flooding my heart and mind, then, they transitioned to the Rochester area where the family of Brian Sullivan and others joined Laurie Travis for the annual Ride for the Missing. Not only did I finish but I tried to run the last quarter a mile on the track to cross the finish line in memory of our missing and their families. The next goal is a half marathon in March. This one, I’ll run (or maybe walk) in memory of a friend, who is free from cancer and celebrating her life in heaven now.
(This photo is at mile marker 2 but I didn't have someone to take my picture so this is the best I could do. teehee Thanks Shelly, hope your timer started working again!)
3rd: An Ability to Persevere
Why perseverance? Easy…when we strive to reach a goal we will inevitably face obstacles trying to stop us from reaching this goal. My friend Lisa and I had a choice this summer. We could have slept in, stayed inside when the weather was too hot or just opted not to try but instead we recognized our need to be healthy and supported, motivated, and encouraged each other to push through the weather, busy schedules, and negative attitudes because we knew something better was to come. We were so excited to cross the finish line today. Our husbands joined us for the day so it was like a double date at the 5K. How cool is that? I know, right? Awesome.
To read the ending stats and award winners, click on the top photo or any of the photos with the mile markers for a link Auyer Racetiming website for more details. Thanks to “playing” with a former student, I placed 1st overall for the women in the walking division. God must have loved my laughter when I realized they were calling my name. Too much fun today! (This is me finishing the race and off in the distance on the road are my walking buddies today, I was playing with children so ran ahead, go figure. lol)
Thank you everyone for supporting the library and a special thanks to the volunteers, Oswego County Sheriffs, and Mexico Fire Department for keeping us all safe today.
Why perseverance? Easy…when we strive to reach a goal we will inevitably face obstacles trying to stop us from reaching this goal. My friend Lisa and I had a choice this summer. We could have slept in, stayed inside when the weather was too hot or just opted not to try but instead we recognized our need to be healthy and supported, motivated, and encouraged each other to push through the weather, busy schedules, and negative attitudes because we knew something better was to come. We were so excited to cross the finish line today. Our husbands joined us for the day so it was like a double date at the 5K. How cool is that? I know, right? Awesome.
To read the ending stats and award winners, click on the top photo or any of the photos with the mile markers for a link Auyer Racetiming website for more details. Thanks to “playing” with a former student, I placed 1st overall for the women in the walking division. God must have loved my laughter when I realized they were calling my name. Too much fun today! (This is me finishing the race and off in the distance on the road are my walking buddies today, I was playing with children so ran ahead, go figure. lol)
Thank you everyone for supporting the library and a special thanks to the volunteers, Oswego County Sheriffs, and Mexico Fire Department for keeping us all safe today.
It's as easy as 1, 2, 3....Get Fit!
What is your first goal?
Do you see the smile on Debbie's face? I only met Debbie this summer while doing an interview with Dr. Mary Starr, the Total Wellness Doc & Mom (http://www.thetotalwellnessdoc.com/). The first thing I noticed immediately was Debbie's smile! She is always smile and has such joy in her walk, conversation, and being - it just oozes from her and you can't help but smile from ear to ear yourself when you are in her company. For that matter, just looking at the pictures and my cheeks hurt from smiling. Maybe it's just me, but I don't think so.
I've had the pleasure of seeing Debbie a couple times since our initial meeting when she "saved the day" on a different occasion this summer. We ran out of Balance Complete (the protein shake my daughter and I drink daily) and I didn't want to go almost a week without it while waiting for my order to come in so I contacted Dr. Mary, she put out an email to her contacts and Debbie responded within moments. By the end of the day, we had our shake and then I replaced it when my order came. Both times, Debbie's smile and joy just warmed my heart. She is one sweet person.
As if all this good stuff isn't enough, Debbie uses her powers for good. Debbie runs, "Social Media Content Management Services", http://www.debbietwomey.com/, among other things. If you are looking for someone to help you get your social media off the ground, expand your reach, or grow your business - then you need to contact Debbie. She is ingenious and helping many reach their goals and more. I think one of the best part about this particular aspect of Debbie's business, are her hours, 5 p.m. - 10 p.m. This is when I tend to do most my writing and speaking work, since I work full-time teaching the kiddos in our area. You rock Debbie!
To learn more about Debbie and read her blog about Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey, click on the photo above or use this URL:
http://www.debbietwomey.com/heidi-allens-sister-shares-her-story
I've had the pleasure of seeing Debbie a couple times since our initial meeting when she "saved the day" on a different occasion this summer. We ran out of Balance Complete (the protein shake my daughter and I drink daily) and I didn't want to go almost a week without it while waiting for my order to come in so I contacted Dr. Mary, she put out an email to her contacts and Debbie responded within moments. By the end of the day, we had our shake and then I replaced it when my order came. Both times, Debbie's smile and joy just warmed my heart. She is one sweet person.
As if all this good stuff isn't enough, Debbie uses her powers for good. Debbie runs, "Social Media Content Management Services", http://www.debbietwomey.com/, among other things. If you are looking for someone to help you get your social media off the ground, expand your reach, or grow your business - then you need to contact Debbie. She is ingenious and helping many reach their goals and more. I think one of the best part about this particular aspect of Debbie's business, are her hours, 5 p.m. - 10 p.m. This is when I tend to do most my writing and speaking work, since I work full-time teaching the kiddos in our area. You rock Debbie!
To learn more about Debbie and read her blog about Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey, click on the photo above or use this URL:
http://www.debbietwomey.com/heidi-allens-sister-shares-her-story
Debbie Twomey has dedicated her life to the care and welfare of children across the U.S. and the journey has been a growing and learning experience that she feels privileged to share with others. She not only incorporates her professional experience, but her personal trial and errors to allow you to understand that the evolution of parenting is not always without its speed bumps.
Debbie implements imagination, education and experience to bring her unique wisdom simply and efficiently by addressing the specific needs of parent’s world-wide. She blends functional and worthwhile pointers that can save you time and money. Her pointers withstand vigorous and energetic kids, are practical and easy to apply and pretty straightforward. Are there questions you need answered or stories you'd love to hear regarding parenting?
Social Media is a new direction in Debbie's life as a result of her work as a Virtual Assistant. Debbie is passionate about children and social media offers insights and tips for blogging and offers her services as your personal social media manager. She is now training with Sandi Krakowski as a Social Media Manager who will assist parents who blog to manage their social media platforms and increase their REACH.
Debbie implements imagination, education and experience to bring her unique wisdom simply and efficiently by addressing the specific needs of parent’s world-wide. She blends functional and worthwhile pointers that can save you time and money. Her pointers withstand vigorous and energetic kids, are practical and easy to apply and pretty straightforward. Are there questions you need answered or stories you'd love to hear regarding parenting?
Social Media is a new direction in Debbie's life as a result of her work as a Virtual Assistant. Debbie is passionate about children and social media offers insights and tips for blogging and offers her services as your personal social media manager. She is now training with Sandi Krakowski as a Social Media Manager who will assist parents who blog to manage their social media platforms and increase their REACH.
Thanks Again Debbie ~ Be Sure to Visit Debbie's site to read
her blog about Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey
TOP's Tuesday is a day set aside to keep everyone updated with upcoming speaking events, book signings, and of course any publishing news. Although every weekend is booked this month, with the exception of the New Haven Farmer's Markets on Monday evenings, they're either family functions or aren't a public event.
Looking ahead though, there are opportunities to get your copy of any of my three books, have a book you ordered online signed, and to hear me speak:
??Saturday, October 5th ?? 9 a.m. - 4 p.m. Craft Show Near Mexico High School Football Field, to benefit Mexico's Pop Warner (unconfirmed at this time, waiting to see what the weather is like, this is an outside craft/vendor fair - and I do have books so want to make a wise choice)
Saturday, October 26th 11 a.m. at the Lowville Public Library - speaking & book signing
Saturday, November 9th Craft Show at New Haven Town Hall
Sunday, November 24th Speaking at the First Baptist Church of Baldwinsville during the morning service with the pastor and then doing my "Tragedy to Triumph" presentation afterward the service and lunch
Saturday, November 30th Pulaski Kinney's book signing
December Praying for a specific event in December - God introduced an amazing possibility to me for a weekend in December. The non profit organization is interested in having me and I'm honored to be asked, nothing is confirmed as of yet because they need to raise the funds to cover my travel expenses. Thrilled they thought of me and asked, now praying God provides the way to get there. Mags is praying they not only raise enough for my travel but for my PR gal (daughter) to travel with me. Love that kid, she is excited and enjoys sharing hope with other families too. We'll see...
Scheduling for the Fall and into Spring of 2014: lbuskewriter@aol.com
Looking ahead though, there are opportunities to get your copy of any of my three books, have a book you ordered online signed, and to hear me speak:
??Saturday, October 5th ?? 9 a.m. - 4 p.m. Craft Show Near Mexico High School Football Field, to benefit Mexico's Pop Warner (unconfirmed at this time, waiting to see what the weather is like, this is an outside craft/vendor fair - and I do have books so want to make a wise choice)
Saturday, October 26th 11 a.m. at the Lowville Public Library - speaking & book signing
Saturday, November 9th Craft Show at New Haven Town Hall
Sunday, November 24th Speaking at the First Baptist Church of Baldwinsville during the morning service with the pastor and then doing my "Tragedy to Triumph" presentation afterward the service and lunch
Saturday, November 30th Pulaski Kinney's book signing
December Praying for a specific event in December - God introduced an amazing possibility to me for a weekend in December. The non profit organization is interested in having me and I'm honored to be asked, nothing is confirmed as of yet because they need to raise the funds to cover my travel expenses. Thrilled they thought of me and asked, now praying God provides the way to get there. Mags is praying they not only raise enough for my travel but for my PR gal (daughter) to travel with me. Love that kid, she is excited and enjoys sharing hope with other families too. We'll see...
Scheduling for the Fall and into Spring of 2014: lbuskewriter@aol.com
Was asked while checking out the other day, a store associate asked,
"So when is the next book coming out?"
I smiled, looked at my daughter, back to the clerk and said, "Christmas".
Her expression was priceless...then she asked, "What is it about?"
I told her I couldn't tell because it is a gift for my parents.
Her response, "I just got goose bumps, I can't wait."
Guess the secrets out...I can't lie, my smirk gave it away.
Mags and I smiled as we walked out of the store because of this conversation. The obvious reason is because she enjoyed Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey enough to inquire about another book. The less obvious, my inability to keep a secret.
Instead of saying, "I'm always writing something." I let the secret out of the bag. I wasn't going to announce I hoped to release something new around Christmas until a couple weeks before since it's a gift for my parents BUT...since I leaked it out, I might as well shout it.
Yes, I am working on a book to be released on or after Christmas. What is the title? I'm not telling. What is it about? I'm not telling. What type of book is it? I'm not sharing that either. The first people to learn the title, subject, and see the cover will be my parents. My target date is December 24th, 2013. This is a goal, still a lot of work to be done to reach that point - it may be only my parents who see the proof copy on Christmas, depending on the progress made in the next couple months.
I'm always writing and have a few ideas floating around in my head but right now I'm working on a book for my parents - their Christmas gift. A story I hope children and adults alike will enjoy reading together. With that being said, I better go before I reveal too many clues and my Mom or Dad figure out what the book is about or the genre. I know they will smile, laugh, and say "You got us again!".
Instead of saying, "I'm always writing something." I let the secret out of the bag. I wasn't going to announce I hoped to release something new around Christmas until a couple weeks before since it's a gift for my parents BUT...since I leaked it out, I might as well shout it.
Yes, I am working on a book to be released on or after Christmas. What is the title? I'm not telling. What is it about? I'm not telling. What type of book is it? I'm not sharing that either. The first people to learn the title, subject, and see the cover will be my parents. My target date is December 24th, 2013. This is a goal, still a lot of work to be done to reach that point - it may be only my parents who see the proof copy on Christmas, depending on the progress made in the next couple months.
I'm always writing and have a few ideas floating around in my head but right now I'm working on a book for my parents - their Christmas gift. A story I hope children and adults alike will enjoy reading together. With that being said, I better go before I reveal too many clues and my Mom or Dad figure out what the book is about or the genre. I know they will smile, laugh, and say "You got us again!".
What do you think the
December 2013 release is about?
It is time for another guest to join us for Heidi's "Birthday Bash" this September. Today, Michelle Weidenbenner joins us again. Michelle shared a review of Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey this spring as part of the book release promotion yet something has changed since her last visit. Since then, she released her book, Cache a Predator.
I found this book amazing and couldn't put it down. I continue to recommend it to others but want to forewarn you there is some (not much) cursing and the topic is a bit intense BUT Michelle's writing is so fabulous, I was never offended or grossed out. The storyline weaves beautifully and I read until I couldn't keep my eyes open a couple nights. I even read it aloud on the deck one night when we had friends over and they had to get their own copy. It is that good.
Anyway, leave a comment to congratulate Michelle on her release when to visit too. It has already won an award, how cool is that? But today Michelle isn't here to talk about her fabulous new release, she joins us to share about my book, or maybe books. To read Michelle's blog - click on the photo above or use the link at the end of today's blog. Thank you again for following, reading, and sharing. Remember, the Kindle version of my two available on Kindle, are now only $4.99.
I found this book amazing and couldn't put it down. I continue to recommend it to others but want to forewarn you there is some (not much) cursing and the topic is a bit intense BUT Michelle's writing is so fabulous, I was never offended or grossed out. The storyline weaves beautifully and I read until I couldn't keep my eyes open a couple nights. I even read it aloud on the deck one night when we had friends over and they had to get their own copy. It is that good.
Anyway, leave a comment to congratulate Michelle on her release when to visit too. It has already won an award, how cool is that? But today Michelle isn't here to talk about her fabulous new release, she joins us to share about my book, or maybe books. To read Michelle's blog - click on the photo above or use the link at the end of today's blog. Thank you again for following, reading, and sharing. Remember, the Kindle version of my two available on Kindle, are now only $4.99.
I’m Michelle, an ordinary lady (and animal lover), and a full time employee of the Kingdom of God. My ministry in His Kingdom is to write novels and teach adults and teens what I’ve learned along my ten-year journey. If you’re an adult or teen looking for a writing resource center, you’ve come to the right place. If you love to write like I do I hope you’ll find handy tools here that will improve your stories. If you’re not a writer, that’s okay.
Everyone is welcome and maybe you have a good story to tell. Since my writing toolbox is over-flowing, I’ve decided to spring clean, dump out a few gadgets, and give some of them away. If you’ve come here to learn, please browse for a while. I hope you find the tool you’re looking for–even if it’s random.
What you’ll find here: Tuesdays I share a writing tooltip, Friday are my favorite days–not only because it’s the weekend, but because I share teen’s writing and am THEIR fan–encouraging them in their writing journey. (Please contact me if you’d like to share your story.) And one day a week I teach RANDOM writing skills. I love to dissect movies and books and call it MOVIE/BOOK BIOLOGY. Please subscribe and share my blog with others.
Can’t find the tool you need? Knock at my door and ask. (Or shoot me an email.) I’ll scrounge around until I find it - mail to: mweidenbenner@comcast.net
Author of CACHE a PREDATOR, a mystery/crime novel with a GEOCACHING theme. My other wips include: Willow, Love is Just a Word, Kelly’s Story, Eclair, and The Vision in a Kiss. I’ve been published in Adoptive Families, Brio Magazine, Splickety Magazine, Kyria, The Writer’s Digest and have won contests in both The Writer’s Journal and The Writer’s Digest. Love is Just a Word was a bronze medalist is the 2010 Frasier Contest, and a 2011 semi-finalist in the ACFW Genesis Contest.
Everyone is welcome and maybe you have a good story to tell. Since my writing toolbox is over-flowing, I’ve decided to spring clean, dump out a few gadgets, and give some of them away. If you’ve come here to learn, please browse for a while. I hope you find the tool you’re looking for–even if it’s random.
What you’ll find here: Tuesdays I share a writing tooltip, Friday are my favorite days–not only because it’s the weekend, but because I share teen’s writing and am THEIR fan–encouraging them in their writing journey. (Please contact me if you’d like to share your story.) And one day a week I teach RANDOM writing skills. I love to dissect movies and books and call it MOVIE/BOOK BIOLOGY. Please subscribe and share my blog with others.
Can’t find the tool you need? Knock at my door and ask. (Or shoot me an email.) I’ll scrounge around until I find it - mail to: mweidenbenner@comcast.net
Author of CACHE a PREDATOR, a mystery/crime novel with a GEOCACHING theme. My other wips include: Willow, Love is Just a Word, Kelly’s Story, Eclair, and The Vision in a Kiss. I’ve been published in Adoptive Families, Brio Magazine, Splickety Magazine, Kyria, The Writer’s Digest and have won contests in both The Writer’s Journal and The Writer’s Digest. Love is Just a Word was a bronze medalist is the 2010 Frasier Contest, and a 2011 semi-finalist in the ACFW Genesis Contest.
To Visit Michelle at her website, click on her photo or copy and paste this URL: http://randomwritingrants.com/
To Read Michelle's blog about Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey, click on the first photo or copy and paste this URL:
http://randomwritingrants.com/2013/09/16/wheres-heidi-a-kidnapped-girl-and-her-sister-lisa-buske/
To Read Michelle's blog about Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey, click on the first photo or copy and paste this URL:
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Michelle's website and check out today's blog post
about Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey
An aspect of having a book available on Kindle is the option to offer your book as a free download. Many authors, myself included, question this concept because after all, to give away your book can mean money lost. This is true but the majority of authors aren't writing for the money, and those that do, learn quickly they are in the wrong business. I write for a few reasons and none of which are to get rich.
I write first and foremost because I simply enjoy it. To write is a release for me. Sometimes the writing expresses much joy and other times the grief having a missing loved one can weigh on your heart. I write to encourage others so they know they aren't alone and there is hope. I write because it is one way to use my gifts and talents to help others to keep moving forward. Sometimes there are leaps forward but usually, it is one day at a time. The main thing is to see it's possible to move forward and survive after tragedy and loss.
So back to the initial question, "Why do authors offer their books as a free download when they don't make any money from the "sale"?" Easy, we write so others can read what we've written. How can I encourage, inspire, or relate how I found it possible to survive the loss of my sister if you don't read my book? Simple, unless you hear me speak, I can't. I can't speak for all authors out there but for me, to offer either of my books as a free Kindle download makes it possible for most to read the book or share it with a friend that might need it.
I write first and foremost because I simply enjoy it. To write is a release for me. Sometimes the writing expresses much joy and other times the grief having a missing loved one can weigh on your heart. I write to encourage others so they know they aren't alone and there is hope. I write because it is one way to use my gifts and talents to help others to keep moving forward. Sometimes there are leaps forward but usually, it is one day at a time. The main thing is to see it's possible to move forward and survive after tragedy and loss.
So back to the initial question, "Why do authors offer their books as a free download when they don't make any money from the "sale"?" Easy, we write so others can read what we've written. How can I encourage, inspire, or relate how I found it possible to survive the loss of my sister if you don't read my book? Simple, unless you hear me speak, I can't. I can't speak for all authors out there but for me, to offer either of my books as a free Kindle download makes it possible for most to read the book or share it with a friend that might need it.
During yesterday's FREE download, Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey was ranked #2 for Nonfiction/Religion & Spirituality/Inspirational Free downloads!
Oh my gosh, I was so excited, out of millions of books available, it was #2. Today, it is ranked #9 for paid Kindle books which means people are downloading the book still today. Thank you so much!!
We've decided to leave the cost of the Kindle download at $4.99 for now on, even past September to show our appreciation for your outpouring of support on Heidi's birthday yesterday with 619 copies of Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey downloaded for FREE. Keep sharing the hope with your friends and family - the cost of the Kindle version will remain $4.99 for now on. There is a direct link to Amazon when you click on the photo of the book above.
When you are at Amazon, be sure to check out my other books too. When the Waves Subside: There is Hope is also available on Kindle for $4.99. All three books are available in print form, my newest release is Encourage Others: One Day at a Time, this is an organization tool to remember the important people and dates associated with them throughout the year. Thank you again. An exciting announcement later this week ~ the Christmas decorations out at the stores today motivated me to start teasing my parents, and all of you, of something to come in December.
Oh my gosh, I was so excited, out of millions of books available, it was #2. Today, it is ranked #9 for paid Kindle books which means people are downloading the book still today. Thank you so much!!
We've decided to leave the cost of the Kindle download at $4.99 for now on, even past September to show our appreciation for your outpouring of support on Heidi's birthday yesterday with 619 copies of Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey downloaded for FREE. Keep sharing the hope with your friends and family - the cost of the Kindle version will remain $4.99 for now on. There is a direct link to Amazon when you click on the photo of the book above.
When you are at Amazon, be sure to check out my other books too. When the Waves Subside: There is Hope is also available on Kindle for $4.99. All three books are available in print form, my newest release is Encourage Others: One Day at a Time, this is an organization tool to remember the important people and dates associated with them throughout the year. Thank you again. An exciting announcement later this week ~ the Christmas decorations out at the stores today motivated me to start teasing my parents, and all of you, of something to come in December.
As of 7 p.m. tonight - ranked #9 out of all Kindle Nonfiction/Religion & Spirituality/Inspirational books!
If you already have the print copy of Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey, why did you also download the Kindle version? How many people did you share the opportunity with and why?
Happy Saturday everyone! Initially today was going to be a buy day but this has changed dramatically. Instead of joining other women in Oswego County for the Fall "Wings of Grace" event in Sandy Creek and then spending the afternoon playing a distant relative, Rhoda Green Searles, for a community walk through history...I am spending it at home. Instead of absorbing a good message and sharing history, ginger ale and crackers are my nutrient, and rest is quiet is all I have to give.
BUT this is not going to stop the birthday fun I already planned. Have you read Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey yet? Have you bought the print copy but would like a copy to bring with you? If so, then today is your lucky day.
BUT this is not going to stop the birthday fun I already planned. Have you read Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey yet? Have you bought the print copy but would like a copy to bring with you? If so, then today is your lucky day.
Where's Heidi?
One Sister's Journey is a FREE KINDLE DOWNLOAD TODAY!!
This is my birthday gift to all of you.
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In addition - When the Waves Subside: There is Hope is NOW ONLY
$4.99 on Kindle!
...encouragement for the grieving parent.
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Thank you for remembering Heidi...back to bed for me!
The phrase TGIF is used frequently here in the United States. If you are unfamiliar with this, let me introduce you to its meaning. TGIF stands for "Thank Goodness It's Friday!" I thought about researching the origin and the countries that use it but decided not to waste time on Friday afternoon and evening absorbed in research and working. I might still investigate a little further but for today, I'm going to revel in the fact, it is Friday!
The first payday of the school year, and at least until next week, there is money in my checking account again. My address should read, Buske's - Old Mother Hubbard Lane. So instead of computer time, we are getting groceries and enjoying some family time this evening. Tomorrow is an event-filled day, then Sunday, the Sabbath is full with church and a chicken-n-biscuit dinner afterwards. In addition to all this exciting stuff, tomorrow is my beautiful sister's birthday, she would have been thirty-eight years old if she hadn't been kidnapped nearly twenty years ago.
There will be a special blog tomorrow, a special FREE download, and who knows what else. I don't! I generally have Heidi's birthday tribute, devotion, activity, or whatever you want to call it planned out weeks in advance and finalize the days prior. This year I committed myself to a couple things so the day is not only my sister's birthday, but a day to join other Christian women in the county at Wings of Grace followed by a community event. A weekend of family, fun, fellowship, and enjoying life.
So until tomorrow's special blog and announcement, answer the following question - I hope you'll leave a comment. Who knows, you might have a great idea another family could try or know of an event others have been looking for. Have a wonderful night!
The first payday of the school year, and at least until next week, there is money in my checking account again. My address should read, Buske's - Old Mother Hubbard Lane. So instead of computer time, we are getting groceries and enjoying some family time this evening. Tomorrow is an event-filled day, then Sunday, the Sabbath is full with church and a chicken-n-biscuit dinner afterwards. In addition to all this exciting stuff, tomorrow is my beautiful sister's birthday, she would have been thirty-eight years old if she hadn't been kidnapped nearly twenty years ago.
There will be a special blog tomorrow, a special FREE download, and who knows what else. I don't! I generally have Heidi's birthday tribute, devotion, activity, or whatever you want to call it planned out weeks in advance and finalize the days prior. This year I committed myself to a couple things so the day is not only my sister's birthday, but a day to join other Christian women in the county at Wings of Grace followed by a community event. A weekend of family, fun, fellowship, and enjoying life.
So until tomorrow's special blog and announcement, answer the following question - I hope you'll leave a comment. Who knows, you might have a great idea another family could try or know of an event others have been looking for. Have a wonderful night!
~ Relax ~ A | ~ Work ~ B | ~ Family Time ~ C |
How will you spend your weekend?
Today I thought I would share a conversation I started on the "Where's Heidi?" Facebook page this week for those not on Facebook or that might have missed it.
I posted the following comment:
"While watching the 1st Percy Jackson movie with my daughter an AC/DC song came on, thought of Heidi and just cried. Who knew AC/DC could make someone cry so much. Is there a song that reminds you of a loved one? What is it? What reaction does it trigger? Does it matter when and where you hear it?"
Here are some of the songs people mentioned ~ I posted one via YouTube too.
"Holes in the Floor of Heaven"
"Who You'd Be Today"
"Turn the page" by Bob Seger
"Butterfly Kisses"
"Last Kiss" by J Frank Wilson and the Cavaliers -
I posted the following comment:
"While watching the 1st Percy Jackson movie with my daughter an AC/DC song came on, thought of Heidi and just cried. Who knew AC/DC could make someone cry so much. Is there a song that reminds you of a loved one? What is it? What reaction does it trigger? Does it matter when and where you hear it?"
Here are some of the songs people mentioned ~ I posted one via YouTube too.
"Holes in the Floor of Heaven"
"Who You'd Be Today"
"Turn the page" by Bob Seger
"Butterfly Kisses"
"Last Kiss" by J Frank Wilson and the Cavaliers -
What song can you add to the list and why is it special to you?
My gosh this month is moving fast, don't you agree? Today is generally a solemn day across the country as we remember the lives lost, sacrificed, and forever changed because of the attack on September 11th, 2001. A friend of mine celebrates her birthday today and since 9/11, their has been a different tone. Of course she celebrates her birthday yet she pauses to pray and remember others too.
This is an important aspect of tragedy, it doesn't only affect one person, one family, or one community. Thousands of people lost their lives because of this attack. Thousands sacrificed time, and lives, to save and rescue thousands. There could be a dark pit in the heart of New York City but instead, the city and our nation rallied to transform it into a place of hope, healing, and light. It wasn't and isn't easy for those directly affected, I can't even imagine their pain.
I lost my sister to kidnapping almost twenty years ago and the pain and loss sometimes breaks my heart. To think of the people who lost one, two, or more loved ones can be overwhelming. How do they do it? Since I don't know them personally I can only make an assumption based on WHO and WHAT gets me through, especially on the tough days - God. You might say, "How can you e joyful or trust God?" I'm going to respond with another question, "How can we not?"
There is hope, healing, and a future after tragedy. Look at how our country rallied and continues to come together. In my small part of the world, I try to share the same qualities through my writing and speaking. Today my friend, Diane Estrella, shares a blog about Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey as a way of introducing others to this idea and possibility. My book isn't based on 9/11 yet it's shares One Sister's Journey after the loss of her only sister, Heidi M Allen, who remains missing today.
To read Diane's blog about me or Where's Heidi? - click on the photo of Diane or copy and paste this link: http://dianeestrella.com/wheres-heidi-one-sisters-journey-by-lisa-m-buske-and-other-interesting-tidbits/
To visit Diane's site, click on the first photo of Diane's site header or copy and paste this link: http://dianeestrella.com/
This is an important aspect of tragedy, it doesn't only affect one person, one family, or one community. Thousands of people lost their lives because of this attack. Thousands sacrificed time, and lives, to save and rescue thousands. There could be a dark pit in the heart of New York City but instead, the city and our nation rallied to transform it into a place of hope, healing, and light. It wasn't and isn't easy for those directly affected, I can't even imagine their pain.
I lost my sister to kidnapping almost twenty years ago and the pain and loss sometimes breaks my heart. To think of the people who lost one, two, or more loved ones can be overwhelming. How do they do it? Since I don't know them personally I can only make an assumption based on WHO and WHAT gets me through, especially on the tough days - God. You might say, "How can you e joyful or trust God?" I'm going to respond with another question, "How can we not?"
There is hope, healing, and a future after tragedy. Look at how our country rallied and continues to come together. In my small part of the world, I try to share the same qualities through my writing and speaking. Today my friend, Diane Estrella, shares a blog about Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey as a way of introducing others to this idea and possibility. My book isn't based on 9/11 yet it's shares One Sister's Journey after the loss of her only sister, Heidi M Allen, who remains missing today.
To read Diane's blog about me or Where's Heidi? - click on the photo of Diane or copy and paste this link: http://dianeestrella.com/wheres-heidi-one-sisters-journey-by-lisa-m-buske-and-other-interesting-tidbits/
To visit Diane's site, click on the first photo of Diane's site header or copy and paste this link: http://dianeestrella.com/
Most importantly - say a prayer for all affected by 9/11
"Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ,
the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort,
who comforts us in all our troubles,
so that we can comfort those in any trouble
with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.
For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ,
so also our comfort abounds through Christ.
If we are distressed,
it is for your comfort and salvation;
if we are comforted, it is for your comfort,
which produces in you patient endurance
of the same sufferings we suffer.
And our hope for you is firm,
because we know that just as you share in our sufferings,
so also you share in our comfort."
2 Corinthians 1:3-7
A portion of this Bible verse opens my book, Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey. I included a couple more for today's blog to remind me, and you, God doesn't leave us and we are NEVER ALONE! Typically the TOP's Tuesday blog is one to update you on the publishing process, speaking engagements, book signings, and news. No worries, I'll revisit the contests going on this month in honor of Heidi's birthday but for right now, I want to talk to you about HOW I get through the tough days.
If you've lost a loved one then you know there are times of the year that tend to be more difficult than others. The date might be the actual day of their death, the day he or she disappeared, the date of diagnosis, a holiday, their birthday, or whatever day or event that triggers the memories of "Before they were gone" and the sadness tends to set in.
I'm going to put it out there, the most difficult times of year for me, the times I miss my sister the most are on her birthday, which is this coming weekend, and a combination of dates in the Spring. April 3, Easter Sunday, and Daylight Savings Time all induce feelings of loss and bring tears for my sweet sister. I spent over a decade after her kidnapping dwelling in the hurt and anything had potential to spiral me into the depths of despair. I wasn't sure I could make it without my sister yet knew, if for no other reason, I must persevere for my parent's sake.
I'm going to put it out there, the most difficult times of year for me, the times I miss my sister the most are on her birthday, which is this coming weekend, and a combination of dates in the Spring. April 3, Easter Sunday, and Daylight Savings Time all induce feelings of loss and bring tears for my sweet sister. I spent over a decade after her kidnapping dwelling in the hurt and anything had potential to spiral me into the depths of despair. I wasn't sure I could make it without my sister yet knew, if for no other reason, I must persevere for my parent's sake.
When Jesus spoke again to the people,
he said, “I am the light of the world.
Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness,
but will have the light of life.”
John 8:12
Ten years into the waiting, a student told me what I needed - "Mrs. Buske, you need Jesus." and invited me to church. This invitation changed my life. I worked hard to stay angry at God - my misplaced blame thrust all my hurt, anger, and grief at the One waiting to hold me when I cried. I hurled insults and nastiness to the heavens because of the pain I lived with each day. It is hard work, and so tiring to fight and stay angry - do you agree?
If you are sick of fighting, tired of anger in the pit of your being, and ready to experience joy - then the next time you look up at the clouds to ask "Why?" to God, simply say, "Help me God! I can't do this on my own." Guess what, we are designed to do it on our own. If it weren't for the hope I have for tomorrow, missing and searching for my sister could quickly bury me into the darkness of my bedroom again BUT I have a choice. I can live life to the fullest and help others or wallow in my own self-pity.
I'll be honest with you, there are times when I want to throw in the towel and call in quits, not to end my life but to quit working, writing, speaking, and forging ahead. I am human. I'm a human who loves and misses her sister so much. Loss is a part of life. You are going to think I'm crazy or maybe even a fanatic for my next statement but I mean it.
When I am ready to pick up the phone and call in or cancel an appointment, GOD ALWAYS, YES ALWAYS, shows me the beauty, goodness, and joy in this world. GOD ALWAYS places a card, text, email, or message before me to say, "Lisa, get a handle girl. Jesus died for your sins. I overcame the world. You don't think I can help you through the day? Get it together and get over yourself. Everyone suffers. Everyone loses. Everyone needs Hope. You can be selfish and stop, or you can lean on me and keep moving forward."
I choose to move forward in His strength, love, provision, and compassion.
If you are saying, "Lisa, you don't get it. I can't." then I challenge you to look at the people around you - who needs you? If you can't do it for yourself, do it for them. You'll be surprised at how good you feel and how it gets easier to do, and be, when you are trusting God to help you each step of the way. Baby steps. Your first step might be getting out of bed, showering, getting dressed, and going to the mail box. Only you know - I'm praying you make the first step.
If you are sick of fighting, tired of anger in the pit of your being, and ready to experience joy - then the next time you look up at the clouds to ask "Why?" to God, simply say, "Help me God! I can't do this on my own." Guess what, we are designed to do it on our own. If it weren't for the hope I have for tomorrow, missing and searching for my sister could quickly bury me into the darkness of my bedroom again BUT I have a choice. I can live life to the fullest and help others or wallow in my own self-pity.
I'll be honest with you, there are times when I want to throw in the towel and call in quits, not to end my life but to quit working, writing, speaking, and forging ahead. I am human. I'm a human who loves and misses her sister so much. Loss is a part of life. You are going to think I'm crazy or maybe even a fanatic for my next statement but I mean it.
When I am ready to pick up the phone and call in or cancel an appointment, GOD ALWAYS, YES ALWAYS, shows me the beauty, goodness, and joy in this world. GOD ALWAYS places a card, text, email, or message before me to say, "Lisa, get a handle girl. Jesus died for your sins. I overcame the world. You don't think I can help you through the day? Get it together and get over yourself. Everyone suffers. Everyone loses. Everyone needs Hope. You can be selfish and stop, or you can lean on me and keep moving forward."
I choose to move forward in His strength, love, provision, and compassion.
If you are saying, "Lisa, you don't get it. I can't." then I challenge you to look at the people around you - who needs you? If you can't do it for yourself, do it for them. You'll be surprised at how good you feel and how it gets easier to do, and be, when you are trusting God to help you each step of the way. Baby steps. Your first step might be getting out of bed, showering, getting dressed, and going to the mail box. Only you know - I'm praying you make the first step.
"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again:
Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all.
The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
Phillipians 4:4-7
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NOTE: WEATHER PERMITING ~ if it rains and the market is cancelled, the sale will be on Monday 9/23 instead.
This summer I spent most Monday evenings at the New Haven Farmer’s Market, located on State Route 104, in the heart of our little town. The market is located in front of the town hall, next to the old Sunoco station, or across from Hazzy’s Tavern – depending on how you orient yourself when driving through town.
The market is usually open 4 p.m. – 7 p.m. but tonight will only be 4 p.m. - 6 p.m. due to spraying. The market runs through the end of September. I will be there tonight 9/9, 9/23, and 9/30 weather permitting. I am NOT there on 9/16 due to a prior commitment with the women from church.
September 30th is the last market of the year but I’ve had so much fun, Lord willing, I plan to reserve a spot again next year.
The market is usually open 4 p.m. – 7 p.m. but tonight will only be 4 p.m. - 6 p.m. due to spraying. The market runs through the end of September. I will be there tonight 9/9, 9/23, and 9/30 weather permitting. I am NOT there on 9/16 due to a prior commitment with the women from church.
September 30th is the last market of the year but I’ve had so much fun, Lord willing, I plan to reserve a spot again next year.
Enough market details, do you want to know what the sale is?
TODAY ONLY
(unless it rains, then 9/23 farmer’s market)
You can purchase
Where’s Heidi?
One Sister’s Journey
for ONLY $10
4:30 p.m. - 6:00 p.m.
while supplies last!
(50 copies available)
Can you believe it?
(unless it rains, then 9/23 farmer’s market)
You can purchase
Where’s Heidi?
One Sister’s Journey
for ONLY $10
4:30 p.m. - 6:00 p.m.
while supplies last!
(50 copies available)
Can you believe it?
My other two books will be available too:
When the Waves Subside:
There is Hope $10
Encourage Others:
One Day at a Time $5
When the Waves Subside:
There is Hope $10
Encourage Others:
One Day at a Time $5
Thanks for remembering Heidi ~ see you tonight at the market!
Pray the rain holds off until after 6 p.m
Last night my husband, Ed, and I went out. A date night, woohoo! When was the last time you went on a date with your spouse? Do you set aside weekly, monthly, or not at all? If you can’t remember the last date then I suggest you add one to the calendar in ink for this coming weekend. You deserve it!
Dates can be anything from a quiet walk to going out with friends, who are also enjoying an evening away from the kids to stay connected to each other. My favorite date night used to be walking around Breitbeck Park in Oswego, New York, as the sun set. After this we usually transitioned from the serene park to a noisy bar for drinking and dancing.
We still enjoy a quiet walk on a date but typically avoid the bar scene. Something I know now, that I didn’t then, I don’t need alcohol to have fun. If anything, I find life is so much more fun without it. Don’t click the “x”, this blog is not a lecture to avoid the bar, on the contrary, it’s to share our most recent date night with you.
Last night, Ed and I, joined our friends at the local tavern for a good friend’s forty-fifth birthday celebration. The invitation to attend came via Facebook and we accepted, marked our calendar, and made childcare arrangements instantly.
Dates can be anything from a quiet walk to going out with friends, who are also enjoying an evening away from the kids to stay connected to each other. My favorite date night used to be walking around Breitbeck Park in Oswego, New York, as the sun set. After this we usually transitioned from the serene park to a noisy bar for drinking and dancing.
We still enjoy a quiet walk on a date but typically avoid the bar scene. Something I know now, that I didn’t then, I don’t need alcohol to have fun. If anything, I find life is so much more fun without it. Don’t click the “x”, this blog is not a lecture to avoid the bar, on the contrary, it’s to share our most recent date night with you.
Last night, Ed and I, joined our friends at the local tavern for a good friend’s forty-fifth birthday celebration. The invitation to attend came via Facebook and we accepted, marked our calendar, and made childcare arrangements instantly.
GASP! I went to a bar last night.
GASP! I had fun.
GASP! Ed and I both enjoyed catching up with our friends, some we haven’t seen in years. We even made new friends!
Close your mouth, it isn’t that big of a deal.
Neither Ed or I had to contemplate “to accept” or “not to accept” – we both knew this is where we wanted to be. I grew up in a small neighborhood and this was one of my oldest (no pun intended, lol) friends, so to not go, wasn’t an option.
Am I glad I went? YES!
Do I regret going? NO
Would I do it again? YES!
I won’t apologize for going and feel no need to make excuses. We went and it was a wonderful way to spend our date night. The stories went back to when we were toddling through our teens and into our adult years. My cheeks hurt when I got home from laughing and smiling so much. This is a great problem to have, don’t you think?
In addition to getting reacquainted with old friends and making new ones, there was a ton of delicious food. Some was even gluten free! This was a refreshing surprise so I also learned a couple neat tricks to cooking gluten free and we exchanged the best places to shop based on price and quality. An added blessing to the night for sure.
GASP! I had fun.
GASP! Ed and I both enjoyed catching up with our friends, some we haven’t seen in years. We even made new friends!
Close your mouth, it isn’t that big of a deal.
Neither Ed or I had to contemplate “to accept” or “not to accept” – we both knew this is where we wanted to be. I grew up in a small neighborhood and this was one of my oldest (no pun intended, lol) friends, so to not go, wasn’t an option.
Am I glad I went? YES!
Do I regret going? NO
Would I do it again? YES!
I won’t apologize for going and feel no need to make excuses. We went and it was a wonderful way to spend our date night. The stories went back to when we were toddling through our teens and into our adult years. My cheeks hurt when I got home from laughing and smiling so much. This is a great problem to have, don’t you think?
In addition to getting reacquainted with old friends and making new ones, there was a ton of delicious food. Some was even gluten free! This was a refreshing surprise so I also learned a couple neat tricks to cooking gluten free and we exchanged the best places to shop based on price and quality. An added blessing to the night for sure.
Did I drink? YES!! had an ice cold Pepsi. Teehee...Gotcha! I’ve learned I don’t need alcohol to have a good time, if anything, I enjoy life so much more without it.
Is it my place to judge others for their drink selections? NO, I’m not perfect so who am I to snub my nose at anyone because of their choice. I wasn’t there to condemn but to enjoy time with friends and celebrate one’s birthday.
Is there evidence I hung out at the bar Last night? YES there is! In fact, I posted pictures I took on my phone as soon as we got home. It’s been a long time since
we were all out together and who knows when the next gathering will occur or what tomorrow will bring ~ so we captured this new memory on camera. The focus of the pictures isn’t on the location, it’s on the people enjoying each other’s company.
Is it my place to judge others for their drink selections? NO, I’m not perfect so who am I to snub my nose at anyone because of their choice. I wasn’t there to condemn but to enjoy time with friends and celebrate one’s birthday.
Is there evidence I hung out at the bar Last night? YES there is! In fact, I posted pictures I took on my phone as soon as we got home. It’s been a long time since
we were all out together and who knows when the next gathering will occur or what tomorrow will bring ~ so we captured this new memory on camera. The focus of the pictures isn’t on the location, it’s on the people enjoying each other’s company.
"Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved,
a worker who does not need to be ashamed
and who correctly handles the word of truth."
2 Timothy 2:15
I’d like to share a conversation I had last night that brought tears to my eyes.
While outside in the sprinkles checking in on Mary, I had the opportunity to visit with one of our friends.
I was humbled, thankful, and encouraged by it. I
hope you are too.
Friend: “I was surprised to see you were coming to the party tonight?”
Me: “Why? I wouldn’t have missed it.”
Friend: “I don’t know. I know this isn’t your scene anymore. You’re a new, no different person. Just didn’t think you would come because it was here. (bar)”
Me: “Thanks for noticing, but, I’m still Lisa, still your friend for the majority of my life. This was an important celebration and I wouldn’t have missed it.”
Friend: “Thanks, you made my day because you came. We have a lot of memories, don’t we?”
Me: “That we do, and now we have another one to add.”
No more words…a hug and we returned to the party inside.
Ladies and gents, it’s okay to join your friends and family for celebrations. I will go as far as to say, even if they are at a bar/tavern. As long as our attendance doesn’t cause us to slip back into the habits and negative routines we fought to overcome. I’m no better than anyone frequenting the bar. I sin, just like you. We all sin and fall short, our sins just have different names and some are more apparent.
My challenge for you is this – There are something we must turn from forever in order to walk with God yet there are many we can return to with our faith rooted, eyes focused, and heart transformed.
How can we witness to our friends and family if we avoid where they are? We can’t! How do I model and show God’s power and ability to change someone’s heart and outlook if I don’t reconnect, or stay connected, with the people who helped to make me who I am today. How do I meet new people if I stay home?
While outside in the sprinkles checking in on Mary, I had the opportunity to visit with one of our friends.
I was humbled, thankful, and encouraged by it. I
hope you are too.
Friend: “I was surprised to see you were coming to the party tonight?”
Me: “Why? I wouldn’t have missed it.”
Friend: “I don’t know. I know this isn’t your scene anymore. You’re a new, no different person. Just didn’t think you would come because it was here. (bar)”
Me: “Thanks for noticing, but, I’m still Lisa, still your friend for the majority of my life. This was an important celebration and I wouldn’t have missed it.”
Friend: “Thanks, you made my day because you came. We have a lot of memories, don’t we?”
Me: “That we do, and now we have another one to add.”
No more words…a hug and we returned to the party inside.
Ladies and gents, it’s okay to join your friends and family for celebrations. I will go as far as to say, even if they are at a bar/tavern. As long as our attendance doesn’t cause us to slip back into the habits and negative routines we fought to overcome. I’m no better than anyone frequenting the bar. I sin, just like you. We all sin and fall short, our sins just have different names and some are more apparent.
My challenge for you is this – There are something we must turn from forever in order to walk with God yet there are many we can return to with our faith rooted, eyes focused, and heart transformed.
How can we witness to our friends and family if we avoid where they are? We can’t! How do I model and show God’s power and ability to change someone’s heart and outlook if I don’t reconnect, or stay connected, with the people who helped to make me who I am today. How do I meet new people if I stay home?
"Be alert and of sober mind.
Your enemy the devil prowls around
like a roaring lion
looking for someone to devour."
1 Peter 5:8
Fear is not of God – lean on & trust in Him as you step out in faith.
Disclaimer: I do not mean to encourage anyone to frequent bars/taverns, to sin, or to walk knowingly into a situation they know is wrong or unsafe. I share this to encourage you to trust God, seek His face first, and be the witness of God’s transformational power to those hurting and searching around you.
Another exciting day here on the blog. Not only is a Saturday but we have a very special guest sharing a review of Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey. Teen author, Alyshia Hull, brought tears to my eyes with her kind words and her bubbly personality that springs from her blog to the reader.
I've known Alyshia for nearly a year through social media yet this Spring and multiple times since, I've had the joy to do speaking engagements and book signings with her. She is an extraordinary young woman, her strength and perseverance are a powerful witness to both her peers and adults alike.
I think my favorite part of her review and blog today was to see the growth in her writing. Wow! I thought she was talented a year ago when we "met" yet this review is evidence she continues to study, listen, learn, and improve as a writer. Great job Alyshia!
For a direct link to Alyshia's review of Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey - click on the photo of us above or copy and paste the link below:
http://alyshiahullauthor.weebly.com/3/post/2013/09/wheres-heidi.html
For a direct link to Alyshia's website and to learn more about her and her book, A Thousand Miles, click on her photo banner at the top or copy and paste this link: http://alyshiahullauthor.weebly.com/index.html
I've known Alyshia for nearly a year through social media yet this Spring and multiple times since, I've had the joy to do speaking engagements and book signings with her. She is an extraordinary young woman, her strength and perseverance are a powerful witness to both her peers and adults alike.
I think my favorite part of her review and blog today was to see the growth in her writing. Wow! I thought she was talented a year ago when we "met" yet this review is evidence she continues to study, listen, learn, and improve as a writer. Great job Alyshia!
For a direct link to Alyshia's review of Where's Heidi? One Sister's Journey - click on the photo of us above or copy and paste the link below:
http://alyshiahullauthor.weebly.com/3/post/2013/09/wheres-heidi.html
For a direct link to Alyshia's website and to learn more about her and her book, A Thousand Miles, click on her photo banner at the top or copy and paste this link: http://alyshiahullauthor.weebly.com/index.html
Thank you Alyshia! Leave a comment of support for this young author here and on her site - let's encourage our youth!
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